Please help

gb12345

This is good to hear

loxxee wrote: »

Really I can truly and honestly say I will never gamble again.

and so is this

loxxee wrote: »

I really am addressing that problem, I'm going to go to a GA meeting and get help so I never so this again,

but you are saying this in the cold light of day after the shock of telling your OH and realising how much you owe.

What happens if in a couple of months time hubby decides to go out for the evening for a few drinks with mates, so you're home alone with just the telly for company and there's sod all on.

Will you have the willpower not to think "I'm bored I'll just have a couple of cheap games of online bingo (or whatever it was you were gambling on), it won't do any harm".

As others have said, you need to take away the ability to be able to gamble, so if you do have a wobble you're not going to have to rely on just willpower - so cut up the cards and look at something like K9 that Muhren mentioned.

loxxee

I'm definitely going to look at K9. I have a iPad mini so not sure what to do about that. Maybe I should just sell it! My mum is going to take control of my finances so she will see exactly what I'm doing.

I am in such shock, I can't eat or sleep and this is with everything out in the open, I still cant believe I did it, I mean I know it was bad before Friday but what on earth possessed me to gamble £14k on online slot machines! It just makes me feel sick thinking about it.

Thank you all for your support, it means a lot as I think it will be a few weeks before my husband can even look at me without hating me let along supporting me!

gb12345

loxxee wrote: »

I'm definitely going to look at K9. I have a iPad mini so not sure what to do about that.

Looks like K9 is available for the iPad as well http://www1.k9webprotection.com/getk9/k9-web-protection-browser

Muhren

I know it is easy to say but you have to try and forget about the money that you lost as you aren't gong to get it back. I still think back about how the hell I managed to waste so much money but it will get easier with time, trust me.

I know your husband is going to be mad and rightly so but give him time and hopefully he will be there to support you through this.

If I can do this so can you!

loxxee

Thank you I will try to put it out my head and just focus on moving forward. Perhaps we can be gamble free buddies!!

FBaby

Look at the positive. You could have kept quiet, and the longer you had, the worse it would have been. You have now told your husband, he could have left there and then, he didn't.

I assume the trust has completely gone now, so you're going to have to work hard to get it back. That will be by showing that you are sticking to your intentions, making all the right sacrifices, definitely tackling your addiction (is it the only one?). It is only with time and dedication on your part that you have a chance to rebuild your marriage, so make sure you get help in case you ou become tempted again.

Muhren

loxxee wrote: »

Thank you I will try to put it out my head and just focus on moving forward. Perhaps we can be gamble free buddies!!

Gamble free buddies works for me!

loxxee

Thank you, yes I think I can categorically say the trust has gone. Your right all I can do is prove that I am putting this right, it's going to be a tough year but hopefully when he sees the amount decreasing the anger will decrease as well.

Well yes if I'm being totally honest, I probably have a shopping addiction as well. On the bright side at least I have plenty of things to sell to try and make some extra money!!!!

This is why my parents are going to take control of my finances, I fear if my husband does it it will be a constant reminder every month.

I think I will go to the doctors to see about some sort of counselling as what I've done is not the actions of a normal person.

loxxee

Muhren wrote: »

Gamble free buddies works for me!

It's a deal!! Is it ok to PM you?

loxxee

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