In need of encouragement...

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Just checked, and I have a message from my boss in there, from 3 months ago! :eek:

Georgiegirl256

Judi wrote: »

Look at it as weeks, it will roll round faster.:)

:rotfl: Not that we particulary celebrate Valentines day anyhow, just commercialised nonsense IMO! Oh yes, I'm so romantic lol!

FBaby

So the end of it is you just find her attractive physically and want to get on a date with her just on this basis? How old are we talking about (her?).

The reality is that she is most likely to be with someone and/or not interested, so you could be waiting a long time for nothing. On this basis, I would say that either you move on to asking out more available women, or you take a deep breath, walk in, ask to talk to her and just say that you find her incredibly attractive, have been thinking about her for some time and would like to get to know her better, could you have her phone number. If she says no thank you and looks harassed, you change opticians!

Orlando_Virgin

Mate, you are wasting your time here. I would personally just can it off. You only know he first name, for all you know she is in a long term relationship, gay, going travelling for 5 years, ANYTHING.

Get yourself out for a drink in your local bars etc. and get chatting to someone there.

fluffnutter

Matt-B089 wrote: »

There's a women I've been interested in for a far while now. She works at my "local" opticians which is nearly half an hour away by car, but even when I'm there for an appointment she never seems to deal with the public. Maybe her role is more behind the scenes, who knows.

Anyway I suppose I'm looking for advise rather than a question as such, but how have/would others suggest I go about asking her out etc or at very least showing interest? Reading this back the most obvious thing to do would be to just walk up and ask / introduce myself... but I don't thing nerves will allow me.

I suppose I could go to the effort of finding her on Facebook etc. and messaging through there but I think that'll just come across as creepy.

Thanks in advance!

What contact have you ever had with her? She doesn't deal with the public so have you ever actually spoken to her? No doubt there are stranger ways to kick off a relationship but it already sounds a bit, well, stalky.

The simple ways are the best - walk up to her with a smile (not a psychotic one) and say 'Hi, my name's Matt. Would you like to meet for a coffee?'. TBH, your chances are probably hovering somewhere between zero and nil, not because there's anything wrong with you (how would I know?) but because it sounds like you've never spoken to her before in your life and are therefore a complete stranger. Most women don't want to go for coffee with a complete stranger.

Bazey

Don't take any advise from the women on here, they are all nutters or lesbians.

Birds like confidence. Put on your best whistle and flute, walk straight up to her, look deep into her eyes and say "alright sugar tits, fancy joining me for a cheeky drink or two"

What's the worst that could happen? She says no, why? not because you are physically and mentally repugnant, she's probably got a boyfriend, or she's a nutter or a lesbian.

Good luck.

FBaby

Mmmm I've turned down physically and mentally repugnant men just because they were repugnant despite being single, mentally sane and into men!

thistledome

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

I used to work as a customer associate, and the number of times I had to deal with creepy, weird men trying it on was unbelievable. I hated it. One day there was this man who was asking 20 questions, personal ones, he went on and on until I told him that I was here to advise him and serve him, not to answer questions about my personal life. I was just on the verge of walking away when he stormed out, closely followed by his smirking mate, trying to control his laughter!

/\ This X 1,000,000

Please OP don't pursue this any further, it will be embarrassing for you and the poor girl who has to try and be professional and polite to a customer who's getting inappropriate and personal. For all she knows you could be a perv or a stalker or a dangerous psycho. Having customer's chat you up is at best embarrassing and at worst, a bit frightening.

Trust me, if she fancied you then you'd know about it. She'd make a special effort to get your attention, be very smiley and chatty at any opportunity, make an excuse to come to the part of the shop you're in etc etc

Don't do it. Not in her workplace.

If you ever see her out in public in a social gathering or whatever, then strike up a conversation and see if she looks confused/wary/bored or whether she gives you a big smile and tries to prolong your chat and encourage you (even then she might be just a very friendly type).

I'm too old now to be bothered by men, thank god, but when I was young I hated having to deal with this nonsense. If the man's nice you don't like to hurt his feelings and if he's horrible he can get very agressive or creepy when rejected.

I feel sorry for men that they so often have to make the first approach, but also exasperated that they focus so much on looks in this way. You know nothing about this girl apart from what she looks like and you're smitten!

Person_one

Bazey wrote: »

Don't take any advise from the women on here, they are all nutters or lesbians.

Birds like confidence. Put on your best whistle and flute, walk straight up to her, look deep into her eyes and say "alright sugar tits, fancy joining me for a cheeky drink or two"

What's the worst that could happen? She says no, why? not because you are physically and mentally repugnant, she's probably got a boyfriend, or she's a nutter or a lesbian.

Good luck.

Bazey, you should get in touch with the writer of this blog, your skills would be valuable over there!

http://thatbadadvice.tumblr.com

bitemebankers

thistledome wrote: »

Don't do it. Not in her workplace.

This is the only advice you need on here. The last thing you need is encouragement to harass a young woman in her place of work.

If you genuinely want some encouragement, consider taking up some new activities that bring you into contact with more women, in a social context. Why not check out your local salsa dancing courses? They're almost always short of men.