In need of encouragement...

Matt-B089

There's a women I've been interested in for a far while now. She works at my "local" opticians which is nearly half an hour away by car, but even when I'm there for an appointment she never seems to deal with the public. Maybe her role is more behind the scenes, who knows.

Anyway I suppose I'm looking for advise rather than a question as such, but how have/would others suggest I go about asking her out etc or at very least showing interest? Reading this back the most obvious thing to do would be to just walk up and ask / introduce myself... but I don't thing nerves will allow me.

I suppose I could go to the effort of finding her on Facebook etc. and messaging through there but I think that'll just come across as creepy.

Thanks in advance!

squashy

Tricky. Do you only know her from the opticians? I think it would be a bit unexpected to just walk in and ask her out without really knowing her. What is it about her, just her looks? You could do with talking with her informally. Can you visit the store to browse, smile at her and see if you can strike up a chat?

Georgiegirl256

How would you find her on Facebook? Do you know her full name? Regardless, yes, that would be abit creepy, that would freak me out, a guy who doesn't know me seeking me out!

How many times have you seen her?

nom_de_plume

Matt-B089 wrote: »

I suppose I could go to the effort of finding her on Facebook etc. and messaging through there

If you're not 'friends' any message sent goes into the 'other' folder without an notification to let the recipient know it's arrived. It's like facebook's very own version of a black hole.
There is a way round it which involves parting with cash.

Person_one

Have you ever even spoken to this woman?

nom_de_plume

And don't try wooing her with a peanut butter kitkat chunkie and a business card with your mobile phone number circled in black biro. It really doesn't work. Trust me on this one....

Matt-B089

squashy wrote: »

Tricky. Do you only know her from the opticians? I think it would be a bit unexpected to just walk in and ask her out without really knowing her. What is it about her, just her looks? You could do with talking with her informally. Can you visit the store to browse, smile at her and see if you can strike up a chat?

Yes I only know her from the opticians. I tell a lie, I have actually spoken with her once about a year ago when she put through an order but never again since. I suppose I could go into the store just to browse and see if I can get her attention but again only so many times you can do that before looking shifty.

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

How would you find her on Facebook? Do you know her full name? Regardless, yes, that would be abit creepy, that would freak me out, a guy who doesn't know me seeking me out!

How many times have you seen her?

I only know her forename from her name tag and as you've already said that's exactly the reason I don't want to start seeking people out on social sites. I've probably seen her about a dozen or so times. I've actually had a friend mention to me after an appointment last year that she was looking at me a lot whilst I was waiting. The problem with hearing this is that I didn't see her looking (if she ever was) so can't take it as a solid sign that she's even in the slightest interested.

Matt-B089

nom_de_plume wrote: »

If you're not 'friends' any message sent goes into the 'other' folder without an notification to let the recipient know it's arrived. It's like facebook's very own version of a black hole.
There is a way round it which involves parting with cash.

I didn't know that... but I'm pretty sure I'm gonna stay away from using it anyway.

Person_one wrote: »

Have you ever even spoken to this woman?

Just the once about a year ago, very brief.

nom_de_plume wrote: »

And don't try wooing her with a peanut butter kitkat chunkie and a business card with your mobile phone number circled in black biro. It really doesn't work. Trust me on this one....

lol I'll cross that one off my list then.

Wilma33

1. Break your glasses so you need to go in for a repair
2. Contact lenses trial?

Matt-B089

Wilma33 wrote: »

1. Break your glasses so you need to go in for a repair
2. Contact lenses trial?

Option one would be a good albeit expensive idea, and I'm already a full time contact lens wearer of the opticians.

ciderwithrosie_2

It all seems a bit futile to me - focusing on a girl you've seen a handful of times, spoken to once in a year over a business transaction and she works in the next town, half an hour away.

It's almost like you're setting up an impossible set of circumstances to avoid the obvious, which is why not chat up a few girls closer to home and more obtainable?