what do i do about my daughters school?

arlybarly

mrs a
i understand where you are coming from and i am not usually prone to violent tendencies myself but when a gang picks on my 12 year old dd then i will do anything to defend her and o do mean anything, sometimes this threat to the bullys parents is the last resort i would take but it usually works, its the only way sometimes that the moronic idiots will control their offspring. it is not all down to society to have to put up with idiots it should start at home, teaching respect for others ect.

poe.tuesday

arlybarly wrote: »

mrs a
i understand where you are coming from and i am not usually prone to violent tendencies myself but when a gang picks on my 12 year old dd then i will do anything to defend her and o do mean anything, sometimes this threat to the bullys parents is the last resort i would take but it usually works, its the only way sometimes that the moronic idiots will control their offspring. it is not all down to society to have to put up with idiots it should start at home, teaching respect for others ect.

I am with you on this one, there is only so much mediation that you can do before you end up having to speak the only language that these thugs know

purplepurple

Could you not take it in turns with another parent to take / pick up your DD and their child to/from school? That way you don't have to fork out for a bus every day (just every other day!) but your DD is safe with an adult to and from school?

If you can make it to school one afternoon, make an appointment to see the head/form tutor/ewo and the policeperson that is linked to your school. All schools have (i believe) a designated policeperson for just this sort of situation. Our policeman actually has an office on site at my school and is a permenent fixture there! Bullying, theft and vandalism has dropped by more than 70% since he joined us permenently.

It's an awful situation for you.... but it is so important for you DD to go to school as much as she possibly can. It should be the bullies that are excluded not the victims.

Hope it goes well

black-saturn

daisy_doughnut_2 wrote: »

i understand what your saying but walking from the school you have to pass the childs street and the family are all the same ide start to fear for my own safety as well
i dont have a car an cant really afford one at the minute

Could you walk a different route to avoid it? I don't have a car either but I would gladly add 30 minutes to my walk to and from school to help my child out.

comping_cat

If the initial problem was an argument with another child, that was then sorted out - can you/the school speak to this girl and or her family, and ask them to sort this out with the bully?

daisy_doughnut_2

hi there all
well lots of things to answer sorry if i miss anything

canddygirl
thanks for your reply its nice to hear from a teacher especially when i was being made to feel like i was being unreasonable by the school as regards to her having the time off and being at home
DD is also awaiting appointments from the hospital to se someone i did go to the docs as soon as i found out
what is the EWO?
i have contacted the local community police and am awaiting a call back i do believe they will be of great help as they were in primary school

there i no other way off the estate where my DD school is so a diff route is a no no

the girl who she initialy had a tiff with is actually as ive just found out very pally with this family an i believe her parents have the same mentality as the bullies parents

its like when you watch neighbours from hell they really do controle the area they live in i also heard on the grape vine that the councill are trying to move them but im not sure how true it is just glad i dont live in an area the council may move them to if it is true

candygirl

daisy_doughnut_2 wrote: »

hi there all
well lots of things to answer sorry if i miss anything

canddygirl
thanks for your reply its nice to hear from a teacher especially when i was being made to feel like i was being unreasonable by the school as regards to her having the time off and being at home
DD is also awaiting appointments from the hospital to se someone i did go to the docs as soon as i found out
what is the EWO?
i have contacted the local community police and am awaiting a call back i do believe they will be of great help as they were in primary school

there i no other way off the estate where my DD school is so a diff route is a no no

the girl who she initialy had a tiff with is actually as ive just found out very pally with this family an i believe her parents have the same mentality as the bullies parents

its like when you watch neighbours from hell they really do controle the area they live in i also heard on the grape vine that the councill are trying to move them but im not sure how true it is just glad i dont live in an area the council may move them to if it is true

Hi hun.
The EWO is the education welfare officer who will come to see you about a lot of unauthorised absences, but they can also help to refer your daughter on for counselling etc.
At the moment at my school, there is a girl who is bullying a lot of other pupils, and is vile to staff too.Because she has a bad home life we are asked to make allowances, which I am willing to do to an extent, but not at the expense of the poor other pupils:mad: :mad: Sometimes it seems that teachers don't care but most of the time our hands are tied by the powers that be who want to keep the numbers up at their schools.Ridiculous though it might seem :mad: :mad:

daisy_doughnut_2

hiya im waiting for the EWO to cotact me
all her absences are authorised but i contacted them last tuesday to tell them that i was going to keep her off and that i needed some help hopefully i will get a call on monday

there tied even more as the bully does'nt attend the school she does'nt attend any school and i know the school have kinda done all that they can regarding trying to keep her away