what do i do about my daughters school?

Mrs_A_4

Arly Barly

I agree wholeheartedly that good kids should be rewarded and the bad kids should be dealt with firmly.
However, parents threatening other parents is absolutely not the responsible way to do this. Why is it OK for you to threaten physical violence in response to the "bad" child's threat?
You can't always control other people's behaviour, but as adults we sure as hell should be able to control our own.
:A

daisy_doughnut_2

hi all
thanks for all the replies

well ive kind of hit a brick wall an have moved no futher on
i called the school yesterday and today leaving messages with my suggestions an no one has called me back

one teacher i did talk to tho said that she didnt think that the head would go for work being sent home allowing my daughter to be of school till the end of next week

this is what the education welfare people are also suggesting

im begining to feel that the head is not helping me an any way shape or form
im trying to compromise im trying to find a solution but its like she is saying she either comes to school regardless of her feelings or safety or im going to be reported

what do i do now?

is it just me or is the head being unreasonable even after admiting that some of the teachers also feel intimidated by the girl thats doing the bullying

i dont know what to do

dd x

daisy_doughnut_2

hi all

i have had a result

apparently the bully turned up at the school today and had to be escorted away by the police

after talking to the school and pointing out that my fears had been justified as i knew this girl would not abide by her asbo they have agreed to send work home an authourise her absence untill the end of next week when we will revise the situation

i feel so much better now an so does DD

thanks all

dd x

outrageous_monkey

Thats fantastic news Daisy!

You and your daughter must feel so relieved right now.

Good luck next week and keep us all up to date with what happens please.

Psykicpup

Can the LEA not provide her a taxi? I would have thought in your DD's situ re selfharm & bullying that it could be an option ............

RibAd

HI Daisy

Great to hear that you got some sort of result! At least your DD can take her mind off it (and you too!) and have a bit of relief....
Even if it is only temporary.

Am curious.... did the 15yr old approach the school specifically for your DD or someone else? Just wondered!

I hope that you get further with this and have it resolved.

daisy_doughnut_2

hi all

i enquired about the taxi but the head has to deem in neccasary which she doesnt

the girl returned to the school but not sure why im thinking it was to show that she doesnt much care for the asbo that has been placed on her which i told the teacher last week i thought this would happen

DD x

black-saturn

I think you should go and pick her up yourself. You say it won't stop them but at least you will be able to stick up for your child and be there for her.

daisy_doughnut_2

black-saturn wrote: »

I think you should go and pick her up yourself. You say it won't stop them but at least you will be able to stick up for your child and be there for her.

i understand what your saying but walking from the school you have to pass the childs street and the family are all the same ide start to fear for my own safety as well
i dont have a car an cant really afford one at the minute but what i am going to try and do is when my DD goes backt o school is ask a friend to help me follow her so that my DD will maybe feel safter in the knowledge im not far and im also going to ask the community police to do the same

im sure it has to end soon i hope it does i really dont want to have to send my DD to the next nearst school where the bully that affected her masively in primary is at

im so annoyed at parents that allow there children to behave like this
but saying that the parents that do normaly are the same

DD x

candygirl

Daisy, as a teacher it really upsets me and enrages me when I discover that any pupils in my care are being bullied.I simply will not tolerate any verbal or physical abuse in my lessons.
Unfortunately once the pupils leave the school at the end of the day we have no power or responsibility to control what happens to them.The asbo girl needs police intervention, and due to the self harming I do think the EWO should be referring your daughter on to CAMHS, where she will get the correct help and counselling.
If she was also bullied at primary school her self esteem will now be at rock bottom, and she is, in my opinion, better staying off school until things are properly resolved.The school should be willing to send work home.If not ring your LEA and tell them the situation.Also log everything as evidence in case of further problems with unauthorised abscences.
My daughter was bullied at high school and it is the worst thing ever so i really feel for you hun:cool: