a little update

harrys_nan

Whatever you decide to do has to be about you and what you want, nobody else.
I will say I was in your position a long time ago and I tried to make my marrige work for 3 years before I gave up, the trouble was , I was then 49 (not a good age to become single after a 20 odd year relationship) I then spent the next 13 years pushing any male that wanted to get close to me as I just didn't trust anyone again.
Please dont waste your life like I did, look after yourself x

paulineb_2

So he put you through all that because he has feelings for someone else. And now having dropped that bomb shell he won't discuss it further.

I actually don't have the words to describe how awful I think he's behaving towards you. Particularly as you have a child together.

Confusedheart

Hi

Me again,

To be fair or him he only said be liked the other girl after I constantly asked him for hours. He says he only carried it on because he wanted to hurt me and that he never actually had 'feelings' for her.

I know I shouldn't have but I 'snooped'. The messages between them are just about work so I kind of believe him. He also messages the men similar stuff.

I know he wouldn't have made a move with anyone. He really isn't the sort.

Yesterday he made an effort to prove he was genuinely sorry, that this whole 2 weeks has just been a mistake. I think slowly il get there.


Thanks all

Jenny484

Can't help to feel this is a big mistake and you just want to hear what you want to hear and are in complete denial. Genuinely, best of luck though.

aileth

Sorry, but I really think he's pulled the wool well and truly over your eyes and you're right where he wants you.

Good luck anyway and I really hope I'm wrong in that thought.

paulineb_2

Confusedheart wrote: »

Hi

Me again,

To be fair or him he only said be liked the other girl after I constantly asked him for hours. He says he only carried it on because he wanted to hurt me and that he never actually had 'feelings' for her.

I know I shouldn't have but I 'snooped'. The messages between them are just about work so I kind of believe him. He also messages the men similar stuff.

I know he wouldn't have made a move with anyone. He really isn't the sort.

Yesterday he made an effort to prove he was genuinely sorry, that this whole 2 weeks has just been a mistake. I think slowly il get there.


Thanks all

Thats not good enough, you live with him, you are the mum of his child and hes spent 2 weeks telling you he doesnt love you anymore and then he tells you he has feelings for someone else?

He should be sorry, he should be beyond sorry. Be prepared for a rocky road ahead if you let him treat you like this and not stand up to it, because if hes fallen for this girl, he'll more than likely do it again with someone else.

victory

Confusedheart wrote: »

Hi



I know he wouldn't have made a move with anyone. He really isn't the sort.

Yesterday he made an effort to prove he was genuinely sorry, that this whole 2 weeks has just been a mistake. I think slowly il get there.


Thanks all

Really? Surely you did not think he was the type to tell you he did not love you anymore, the type to tell you he had feelings for someone else? So why would you be confident to feel that he wouldn't make a move on anyone? He really isn't the sort.

What sort is he then?

Bazey

Confusedheart wrote: »

Hi

Me again,

To be fair or him he only said be liked the other girl after I constantly asked him for hours. He says he only carried it on because he wanted to hurt me and that he never actually had 'feelings' for her.

I know I shouldn't have but I 'snooped'. The messages between them are just about work so I kind of believe him. He also messages the men similar stuff.

I know he wouldn't have made a move with anyone. He really isn't the sort.

Yesterday he made an effort to prove he was genuinely sorry, that this whole 2 weeks has just been a mistake. I think slowly il get there.


Thanks all

Fair enough, he sound like a keeper. He'll probably never do anything like this again when he grows up. Anyhow it's good to purposely make you partner feel jealous.

Good on you for settling for second best.

Mrs.C.A.R

Not sure I'd believe him.
Saying those things don't just come out of the blue, i too think he was rejected by this other woman and found out the grass isn't greener.
Good luck to you though on giving it another go

nearlyrich

Why would you want to be with someone who wanted to hurt you?

Either he needs to change his attitude and grow up or you need to show him the door...