How much would you/have you spent to attend a Hen do?

onl

Just wondering?

I've never attended one before and recently received an invite.

Without saying too much, my friend is hoping to book through one of those all inclusive companies and it all seems ridiculously overpriced.

Like i said, i've never attended one before - the majority of my friends are not married.

I'm just curious to know of how much other people have paid to attend a Hen do/weekend.

Cotta

Regardless of what the answers are - do not put yourself in financial trouble for the sake of a Hen party.

thehappybutterfly

Agreed Cotta, especially if you're not part of the bridal party, i.e. maid of honour etc.

I've never been to an expensive hen do - the ones I've been to tend to be a pub crawl and nightclub so £40 or £50 tops. Plus a new outfit of course!

paulineb_2

Nothing apart from the drinks on a night out. Never been on a hen weekend, always just gone out locally.

heartbreak_star

I don't really see the point of these massive expensive weekends, all they do is exclude those who can't afford it.

Everything included I could probably afford £100.

HBS x

tea_lover

The most expensive one I've been to was a day out at Alton Towers. We got a group discount and a minibus (and it was about 12 years ago) so even that wasn't particularly expensive.

Usually we'd do a meal, or a big takeaway night in with drinks/snacks. Maybe £30 ish.

System

My cousin's was in Dublin, which must have cost a fair whack, once you factor in the plane fares and the drinking. Not to mention the outfits!

I didn't go, - it's not my thing at all. Don't be pressured into going if you can't afford it.

hgotsparkle

I've never actually been on one but I would only spend on drinks and an outfit, anyone wanting to do an all inclusive trip away can count me out.

Gelly123

Hi onl

I think it depends on the circumstances but have been to a few, had one of my own and arranged one myself as Maid of Honour.

For mine, we wanted friends to attend but if the costs were too high they wouldn't have come so we arranged go karting, dinner out, overnight stay in a budget hotel and riverboat cruise the following day.

Some friends came to all of it, some came to bits of it but it meant that they didn't feel obliged to do the whole thing if they couldn't afford to.

I've also been to one where it was a 2 night break in a private residence in the Cotswolds - cost was about £120 for 2 nights incl breakfasts but we ate out for dinners - that was expensive but the brides main circle of friends were high fliers in London with salaries to match. I struggled to afford it but budgeted so I could and am glad I did as it made the wedding so much more enjoyable already knowing so many people.

For the one I arranged - the bride and her close circle of friends are mainly full time Mum's so the budget was set accordingly. At first she wanted to do the whole "package" with a company arranging it but it soon became clear that the people that meant most to her wouldn't be able to go so we changed it to a meal out in a local restaurant, a few pubs and ended up in a nightclub - we had a great time!

Hope this helps a bit
Gelly

Brighton_belle

I'm another one who has never gone to one nor did I have one myself. Celebrating my marriage with my friends and family was the point of my actual wedding, and I have (as expected) continued to see my friends in exactly the same way as before I was married so didn't see the need for some sort of "last chance to party as a single woman before being shackled to the sink".


So to echo what others have said -- don't spend more than you can afford. If the plans are the sort of thing you love, and are happy to see it as instead of an annual holiday then that's fine.
But remember - it's a made up industry that didn't exist 20 years ago, not some centuries old tradition that will blight any marriage if it isn't complied with.

Any

I have recently spent £200 on a weekend hen do.
And I wasn't even invited to a lunch at the wedding, only to the evening.
BUT I would spend that amount on a weekend away couple of times a year and this for me was it - it was weekend away with activities, friends (my best friend was there), meeting new friends, eating and drinking rather then being at home.
And obviously I can afford it.

I would not spend the money though if I thought the hen do will be "get pi**** and stay in that form all weekend" though... Like sometimes you see with some people.. I knew this is a group where we will drink, yes, but not all day long and to the point where we will be showing bare bottoms to passer byers like you sometimes see on the TV!!!:-)