How to help my OH with his guilt over stolen car?(Long-sorry!)

pinkshoes

Just be blunt with him and tell him to get a grip.

He was a twit, and the car was stolen purely because he left the keys in it. Obviously this was not a planned crime. Just someone who saw an easy thrill.

No one is that stupid to come back and show their face in the area in case they wre recognised.

He needs to focus his energy into saving up for a new car.

paulineb_2

It is awful to think that someone has targeted your car, but how did he leave it outside for that length of time. Was he aware he had done it, did he think he could leave it and not be targeted or did he forget he had left the keys in the ignition and lights on?

I live in an area where a car like that wouldnt last 5 minutes and I still dont feel unsafe. I think its hardly likely that they would come back and target your home.

If hes having a reaction like this, get him to see his GP and as someone else said contact victim support.

Bottom line is, he was responsible, hes made a big mistake, but its done now, all the anguish in the world wont help matters.

zzzLazyDaisy

paulineb wrote: »

It is awful to think that someone has targeted your car, but how did he leave it outside for that length of time. Was he aware he had done it, did he think he could leave it and not be targeted or did he forget he had left the keys in the ignition and lights on?.

His G'son trapped his hand in the car door and in rushing to see to him he forgot that the keys were still in the car.

My cousin did something similar once - she got a phone call informing her that her DD had attempted suicide and was in an ambulance on her way to hospital. She jumped in the car and rushed to the hospital. It was only when she got back home in the early hours that she discovered she had left the frying pan on the gas :eek:

We are all capable of taking our eye off the ball in times of stress or crisis.

paulineb_2

Missed that bit in the opening post.

barbiedoll

I left my car outside my aunt's flat (in a VERY undesirable area!) with the keys in the ignition, for around an hour recently. I couldn't believe that it was still there when I finally twigged what I had done.

Worse of all, it isn't even my car, it's a lease car (brand new) and I dread to think what I would have had to pay if it had gone missing, not to mention the rollicking that I would have got from my boss at work! :eek::eek:

I laughed about it at the time but I had nightmares for a few days afterwards and I did get a bit obsessive for the next week or so, constantly checking my bag for my keys and so on.

Give hubby a big hug, tell him to get a grip and that no real harm was done. Yes, he was a bit silly, yes, you will probably lose money but no-one was hurt and no-one is coming back to "get" anyone, a thief just got lucky. And it may well be found, my neighbour had her car stolen and the police found it in the woods, a few days later. It wasn't even scratched!

dandelionclock30

I wouldnt have told the police and the insurers I'd left the key in the ignition and the door unlocked. I cant believe anyone would do that.
A lot of car thieves would be able to get in any car and steal it if they wanted to. I would have just said it had been stolen, end of story.
Why shoot yourself in the foot like that?

Alter_ego

dandelionclock30 wrote: »

I wouldnt have told the police and the insurers I'd left the key in the ignition and the door unlocked. I cant believe anyone would do that.
A lot of car thieves would be able to get in any car and steal it if they wanted to. I would have just said it had been stolen, end of story.
Why shoot yourself in the foot like that?

It's called honesty.

dandelionclock30

I call it stupid.

19lottie82

Its not stupid. What would happen if the police found the car abandoned with the key still in the ignition (highly possible)? Then you would have been done for making a false statement and attempted insurance fraud.

lostinrates

Op, has he broken down at all, cried? Personally, I'd just give him a night off being 'protector' and hug him and let him cry if he needed to, kiss him and remind him we all take our eye off the ball sometimes, and that grand children trump cars any day and you would far rather he'd taken care of the kid than the car when forced to choose.


Then, next morning, make him breakfast and say, right, I want you back now....ok? And see of he is able to do that., If he is great, if not, then I'd package him off to the doctor.