Where does my friend stand with his 7 month old baby?

paulineb_2

I dont think approaching her on a night out would be the best idea.

spike241

I agree with Pauline.

If he has no proper way of contacting her (and he doesn't seem to great at communicating online, which I assume is how he's been contacting her) then it seems like courts or trying to arrange a proper meeting to work everything out (contact, maintenance).

Maybe I'm reading it all wrong, but he doesn't really sound desperate to see his child.

jenhug

The mother of the child is bi polar, and the grandmother is carer for baby, I would be tempted to ask social services for an assessment and see if he can gain access that way.

fluffnutter

He's supposedly the father of this child and he doesn't even know where her mother lives? Jeez. Let her do the running. If she's serious about getting support for her baby she'll be a bit more forthcoming with important details like where she lives, !!!!!!.

Sorry, but she sounds like an idiot, your mate doesn't sound much better, and the real one to suffer in all of this is the poor bloody baby.

clearingout

will369 wrote: »

Thanks for the replys guy.

I quote this from my friend

"Basically, say I found out she was pregnant about month still being with her and then I broke up with her cus me and her what not right for eachother at the time, she did cheat but said she only kissed one or two people but is 100% sure I was the only person she slept with when together, she won't let me see the baby cus she feels I wasn't the nicest to her being very selfish but will still send me photos, she will not meet me and she only lives in Torquay where as I live in Exeter she has told me her mum is full carer and that she has bi poler before when she was drunk.. I've tried to meet her text her ring but get no where, I don't think I can afford solicitors at this moment but would pay stuff for the baby as equal if I got to see her I was never violent or abusive to her so there is no reason for the solicitors"

there is a lot of information here which may make her identifiable. If you are going through the courts and it becomes known that you have been discussing the situation in public in this way, a judge is likely to take a dim view. Please change the post for the sake of your friend and his relationship with his child.

It is possible to get a judge to order a DNA test or the other way to do it is to deny paternity on first contact with the CSA - this will require her to open a case, however.

shegirl

will369 wrote: »

Thanks for the replys guy.

I quote this from my friend

"Basically, say I found out she was pregnant about month still being with her and then I broke up with her cus me and her what not right for eachother at the time, she did cheat but said she only kissed one or two people but is 100% sure I was the only person she slept with when together, she won't let me see the baby cus she feels I wasn't the nicest to her being very selfish but will still send me photos, she will not meet me and she only lives in Torquay where as I live in Exeter she has told me her mum is full carer and that she has bi poler before when she was drunk.. I've tried to meet her text her ring but get no where, I don't think I can afford solicitors at this moment but would pay stuff for the baby as equal if I got to see her I was never violent or abusive to her so there is no reason for the solicitors"

You said it was a one night stand.

You also said he found out 5 months ago.

Any particular reason for the dishonesty?

shegirl

fluffnutter wrote: »

Poor !!!!ing baby, that's my main thought.

Agreed.Rather immature and JK like isn't it!

Goldiegirl

tiger_eyes wrote: »

This is a soap opera.

Or an episode of the Jeremy Kyle Show

Toto

He should have put something on the end of it!

Sorry, couldn't resist.

I agree with the others, stop chasing and simply inform her that your friend would like a DNA test. Once this has established paternity then he would like to discuss access and child support in a sensible and adult manner.

It sounds like there is a lot of growing up that needs to be done by all parties.

ValHaller

clearingout wrote: »

there is a lot of information here which may make her identifiable.

So why go and quote it including the towns? This is dafter than the OP

At least edit your post with '*'s or something to show what needs to come out