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How romantic is your partner?

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  • DigForVictory
    DigForVictory Posts: 12,102 Forumite
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    My husband is in-his-own-way romantic. He started bringing me flowers - and then brought pieces of Denby when he realised I enjoyed them for longer, but still brought occasional flowers!
    He'll make or restore things I'm interested in, making them come back to life and more personal to me.
    Excuse me while I go surprise him with a hug - I hadn't realised how much he does that I appreciate...
  • Bangton
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    I wouldn't say my hubby was romantic, but he is thoughtful. I get a cup of tea in bed every morning, breakfast in bed at weekends, and he will always let me have the last bit of chocolate we're sharing :-). He's quite tactile, he always reaches for my hand whenever we're walking anywhere and not a day goes by without lots of kisses and cuddles.

    He is really rubbish at the flower buying/thinking of nice places to take me out kind of thing though. And I have to write him a comprehensive present list on birthdays and Christmas.

    This sounds like my OH. Thoughtful really is the right word for him. I like that though. Romantic gestures are not really my thing and I'd find it a bit embarrassing if he was over the top. I much prefer him getting me a chupa chup every time he gets his hair cut, twisting my hair round his hands and cutting my toe nails when I was pregnant!

    He does buy me things but not all that often as our finances are pretty much shared. He always cuddles and kisses me and is the most amazing listener when I have a crisis (I have too many as I make mountains from molehills!)
  • Goldiegirl
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    I've been known my husband for 34 years, and in that time I have had flowers twice.

    Some might think that I'm hard done by and he is not romantic, but he shows his love for me everyday with his care and consideration for me. I'm totally confident of his love for me, so find I don't need grand gestures.
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  • Richard53
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    Speaking as an ordinary bloke: if a man says he loves you, it means that he loves you. There is no trickery or gamesmanship involved. If he backs it up with kind gestures, that's even better. If he buys you flowers and does unexpected surprises to delight you, start to worry :)

    Seriously, if you're getting on well and know you love each other, let it be. I've been out with a couple of girls who did the "no, but how much do you love me?" thing, and it's a bit scary, to be honest. A bit needy, a bit manipulative, not attractive. I ran a mile, both times.

    Chill out, and enjoy his company. If he loves you, he loves you.
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  • does OH send me flowers - nope

    does he 'do' valentines day - nope

    does he send me texts telling me how much he loves me - nope


    but he'll walk the dog when its my turn and its pouring down with rain, he'll walk with me in a bra around Endinburgh because I want to and doesn't have to be nagged to do the ironing (in fact he nags me lol) or any of the housework.

    and I love him
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  • Richard53
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    he'll walk with me in a bra around Endinburgh because I want to

    Did I read this correctly?
    If someone is nice to you but rude to the waiter, they are not a nice person.
  • Gloomendoom
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    Richard53 wrote: »
    Did I read this correctly?

    Probably a typo.

    She meant Edinburgh.
  • duchy
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    Sounds like the Moon walk ....at least I hope so !!!
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  • hgotsparkle
    hgotsparkle Posts: 1,282 Forumite
    Richard53 wrote: »
    Speaking as an ordinary bloke: if a man says he loves you, it means that he loves you. There is no trickery or gamesmanship involved. If he backs it up with kind gestures, that's even better. If he buys you flowers and does unexpected surprises to delight you, start to worry :)

    Seriously, if you're getting on well and know you love each other, let it be. I've been out with a couple of girls who did the "no, but how much do you love me?" thing, and it's a bit scary, to be honest. A bit needy, a bit manipulative, not attractive. I ran a mile, both times.

    Chill out, and enjoy his company. If he loves you, he loves you.

    That is really good input actually. I've found that when I calm myself down a bit and am just happy to watch tv next to OH, no touching then hes more open and cuddly with me but if I ask the questions like how much do you love me and why do you love me then he gets het up over it and it causes an argument. I will heed your advice!
  • That is really good input actually. I've found that when I calm myself down a bit and am just happy to watch tv next to OH, no touching then hes more open and cuddly with me but if I ask the questions like how much do you love me and why do you love me then he gets het up over it and it causes an argument. I will heed your advice!
    Lol I think you and I have a bit in common when it comes to our men! I am lucky that my bf quite likes me lavishing attention on him but the point I was making is that he isn't as forthcoming giving it back,but I know he loves me to bits which should be all that matters. He is also a swine for jokingly winding me up and I bite every time! I should know better by now lol.

    What Richard 53 is saying is so true especially the bit about enjoying his company and letting it be. But you sound a bit insecure like me which makes it so much harder. I don't live with my bf and I find this makes it worse lol!!
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