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How romantic is your partner?

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  • This is exactly me - I always used to ask him 'do you love me' and 'how much do you love me' but I know it was just annoying him so I stopped. I do still feel as though I need the reassurance, though I don't actively seek it. I just remember the little things he does for me, and all the nice things hes said to me in the past.
    I am gonna take a leaf out of your book and try not to actively seek reassurance all the time:) I don't know why I do it to be honest,as has been mentioned I am a little insecure which is probably why.
    I know he thinks the world of me and loves me so I should be happy with that. Trouble is I overthink and worry too much which is not good either!
    I need to get a grip and overcome my insecurities or I may well loose him for good:eek:
  • hgotsparkle
    hgotsparkle Posts: 1,282 Forumite
    I am gonna take a leaf out of your book and try not to actively seek reassurance all the time:) I don't know why I do it to be honest,as has been mentioned I am a little insecure which is probably why.
    I know he thinks the world of me and loves me so I should be happy with that. Trouble is I overthink and worry too much which is not good either!
    I need to get a grip and overcome my insecurities or I may well loose him for good:eek:

    I don't know why I'm like it either - I've never been like this with any of my exs. Looking on the bright side I'm trying to think its because I love him so much more and he means so much more to me.
    I think maybe some of it is because his ex is still around as shes friends with his sister (though we don't see his sister much) and it bugs me to death.


    Honestly, I know 100% how you feel. If you need to talk about the insecurities, pm me any time!
    I overthink absolutely everything and drive myself completely insane with worry over nothing and I completely lack the ability to think rationally.
  • Kynthia
    Kynthia Posts: 5,692 Forumite
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    I'm more tactile and demonstrative with my feelings for my husband. I tell him I love him, hold his hand and give him cuddles. He responds and does the same but less so than me. However I'm not insecure or unsure of his feelings for me because I see him show it to me in other ways. He does all the washing up because I work longer hours than him, and he always collects my deliveries from the post office as I like a lay in on a Sat morning. He carries all my bags and shopping whenever we go out and is forever making me cups of tea. He's happy to spend endless weekends seeing my family and will do all the painting because I hate it. If I ask him what he likes about me I get nothing meaningful out of him, he didn't even do a so each at our wedding. However, the fact he watches the DVD of the day more than I do (he sneakily does it on his days off) I find so sweet. Also I see love in all of those actions above. There's no romantic gestures though, such as flowers, trips to the theatre or surprise romantic getaways but I don't think I'm great with romance either.
    Don't listen to me, I'm no expert!
  • Gloomendoom
    Gloomendoom Posts: 16,551 Forumite
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    Kynthia wrote: »
    If I ask him what he likes about me I get nothing meaningful out of him, he didn't even do a so each at our wedding.

    I'm not sure I did one at our wedding. What is a "so each"?
  • xcarlyx
    xcarlyx Posts: 1,040 Forumite
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    Ive been with mine a month tomorrow.

    He brought me flowers because he changed his plans one night.

    Last weekend he treat me to a spa day - i did not enjoy this one bit but I was grateful and ending up giving him some money the next day x
  • paulineb_2
    paulineb_2 Posts: 6,489 Forumite
    I'm not sure I did one at our wedding. What is a "so each"?

    I would think its a speech.
  • FBaby
    FBaby Posts: 18,374 Forumite
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    My husband can be a real pain in the bum, but what makes him especially special is that he is really romantic and affectionate. He tells me he loves me all the time, sends me beautiful loving text, leaves me notes under my pillow when he goes away. He is not a big flowers and gift man, but he will make a special effort for my birthday. He is extremely affectionate, always giving me cuddles and giving me complements.

    He is a real man's man, likes people to think he is tough even sexist, but deep inside, he has the biggest heart and is as respectful or women as can be.
  • scmp
    scmp Posts: 185 Forumite
    Oh dear i feel awfull!
    I am not a very 'touchy feely' person... my OH is! Constant with the i love yous, the holgin hands, the hugging, the stroking, the constant pecks... it drives me mad sometimes!!!
    After a few years together is has calmed down but it still occasionally without thinking swat him away!
    I all ways say i love you and compliment him because i remind myself to (although i do appreciate him phisically it never occurs to me to say it!) and he does to me but he does it allllll the time! Sometimes it doesn't feel like he means it because he says it constantly.
    When we are out with friends (rare) he has to be right by my or holding me but i like my space.

    I am not evil or cold i am just not that way inclined where as be was the opposite. We have come to a middling ground now i think!!!

    I think i must have the 'bloke' gene somewhere... Either that or i grew up with two brothers and my younger one was a whiney pain in the bum who had to me moddy coddeled!

    I know i am lucky and i should appreciate it more and make more of an effort... it's taken him 4 years to wear me down into marrying him... what more does he want!!! ;)
  • Mrs_Ryan
    Mrs_Ryan Posts: 11,834 Forumite
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    We used to be tactile but not so much now- we used to hold hands but don't now- sometimes if I'm wearing heels or something I might tuck my arm through his but that's it. He doesn't do romance either but that's fine- we've been together for 7 years now and I'm not so bothered about that. I'm quite a 'huggy' person and I do like my hugs but I hug all my close friends not just OH..
    *The RK and FF fan club* #Family*Don’t Be Bitter- Glitter!* #LotsOfLove ‘Darling you’re my blood, you have my heartbeat’ Dad 20.02.20
  • Rummer
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    My hubby is not one for grand gestures however he is amazingly thoughtful day to day. Little things like coming home with a coffee or my favourite chocolate bar, running the bath, giving me a hug when he knows I need one.

    To be honest for me romance is filling the dishwasher so I don't have to and moving his shoes away from the front door and all the other little things that show me he cares about making me happy.
    Taking responsibility one penny at a time!
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