Expecting baby - hospital bag for husband

Caroline_a

onlyroz wrote: »

Most husbands are booted out shortly after the birth, so I wouldn't have thought they would need anything packing at all. I certainly didn't pack anything specifically for him, although I said he could help himself to my Jaffa Cakes if he wanted...

Gotta be true love that one...:rotfl:

DKLS

bylromarha wrote: »

If the woman has to be at the gruesome bit, why should the man get to escape it? :rotfl:

No good reason for the man to be there he did his bit 9 months earlier.

I know from some of my male friends who have described attending the birth like being in the vietnam war, "you dont know !! you wasnt there" !!!!

Gigglepig

Like I said the point is not that he cannot fend for himself or treating him like a child. We are a team and take turns doing things like packing. We also both like and do small gestures of care for each other and little surprises. It actually turned out my husband also wanted to pack the bag for me, so we will be packing one bag together for both of us.

And yes, of course we would get by without packing a nice hospital bag, but in the eventuality that we end up being in for a while (1st baby, super speedy birth is sadly not that likely...) the bag will be there to make me, and him more comfortable.

The hospital is quite far from home so not easy to nip back to get things, and we have no family around to bring things either. The last thing we would like think about during labour is where to get change for the parking, food or nappies. For all these reasons it made sense to us to pack a bag.

Anyway we are all different, i guess what is kind and thoughtful to some might seem unnecessary/too soppy/patronising to others.

bylromarha

DKLS wrote: »

I know from some of my male friends who have described attending the birth like being in the vietnam war, "you dont know !! you wasnt there" !!!!

But you jumped on the Huey, grabbed a cool one and left the woman you love in the battlezone as you waved goodbye.:D

Metranil_Vavin

Gigglepig wrote: »

Like I said the point is not that he cannot fend for himself or treating him like a child. We are a team and take turns doing things like packing. We also both like and do small gestures of care for each other and little surprises. It actually turned out my husband also wanted to pack the bag for me, so we will be packing one bag together for both of us.

And yes, of course we would get by without packing a nice hospital bag, but in the eventuality that we end up being in for a while (1st baby, super speedy birth is sadly not that likely...) the bag will be there to make me, and him more comfortable.

The hospital is quite far from home so not easy to nip back to get things, and we have no family around to bring things either. The last thing we would like think about during labour is where to get change for the parking, food or nappies. For all these reasons it made sense to us to pack a bag.

Anyway we are all different, i guess what is kind and thoughtful to some might seem unnecessary/too soppy/patronising to others.

He's going to be getting a surprise to surpass all surprises pretty soon... a ruddy loud one that keeps him up half the night..:rotfl:

No offence meant OP..if packing a nice hospital bag for your DH makes the whole event more special then you should go for it. I can't really think of what else you could pack though really as a surprise....:think:

Errata

According to my friend, an appt letter for a vasectomy would have been a useful thing to have in the hospital bag.

daisiegg

Gigglepig wrote: »

Like I said the point is not that he cannot fend for himself or treating him like a child. We are a team and take turns doing things like packing. We also both like and do small gestures of care for each other and little surprises. It actually turned out my husband also wanted to pack the bag for me, so we will be packing one bag together for both of us.

And yes, of course we would get by without packing a nice hospital bag, but in the eventuality that we end up being in for a while (1st baby, super speedy birth is sadly not that likely...) the bag will be there to make me, and him more comfortable.

The hospital is quite far from home so not easy to nip back to get things, and we have no family around to bring things either. The last thing we would like think about during labour is where to get change for the parking, food or nappies. For all these reasons it made sense to us to pack a bag.

Anyway we are all different, i guess what is kind and thoughtful to some might seem unnecessary/too soppy/patronising to others.

I think it is a lovely idea and can see myself being exactly the same if I am ever in your situation

Caroline_a

Of course you could always warn him that there's a stage that most women go through in labour when they wish to murder their husbands (or indeed anyone who is close enough...) A friend of mine grabbed the doctor by a very tender part of his anatomy with her exceptionally long talons and refused to let go, whilst swearing like a trooper at him. The nurses had to prise her fingers off, one by one. She didn't see him after that.....:rotfl:

con1888

My oh won't be getting a bag lol, he will take his kindle and his mobile phone with him that's all he will need. He can put a spare tshirt in my bag if he likes. I'm the most forgetful person ever so it's going to be bad enough remembering one bag never mind two!! Hospital is about an 8 minute car journey from home anyways, OH doesn't drive but my and his parents do so they can bring him things if needed.... there is also a town centre a 5 minute walk one way and a retail park the other way, a McDonalds and a KFC so even if god forbid the roads are all shut for some crazy reason we won't be stuck.

clairehi

Nowadays if the birth is straightforward, you may be discharged straight from labour ward so will not need lots of stuff. Also there is very limited storage space.

I would pack one bag of things you will need for in labour and straight afterwards, and have a second bag to be left in the car with extra changes of clothes, nappies, food etc if you do need to stay in. Whatever you do, dont rely on a man to select a suitable going home outfit for you and bring it in (from experience!)

Its a good idea to get your OH to pack the bag so he knows where and what everything is.