Hubby has left-can he come and go as he pleases?

jenhug

Narla, slightly off topic, but can you list 3 traits/habits your husband had that used to irritate you?

Dimey

Narla wrote: »

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The gym b*tch is at least 12 years younger than him! I am debating whether to change my gym because I can't bear the thought of seeing them both there together! And I'm avoiding going at the moment. I don't want them to win but neither do I want to be tormented every time i go!
Thanks for all the advice xx

I wonder whether the Gym will transfer you to another in the chain free of charge - if you explain why!

OP - I was duped into being amicable after a 25 year stint and I was well & truly suckered. Turned out he'd been cheating all along too and I didn't have a clue.

Nice people rarely see fairness from divorce because we are too polite and too accommodating. My best advice would be to start thinking of yourself and question his every motive. Make the most of that anger. You are entitled to it.

How dare he deceive you and treat you like a disposable acquaintance after 26 years of marriage. You deserve more respect. Take good legal advice.

Errata

Narla wrote: »

I decided to brave the gym tonight...I was drying my hair when the b*tch breezed past me and stared a little bit too long right into my eyes through the mirror with a smirk on her face!! I managed so well to ignore her but not sure I can keep it up x

Next time, put your hands on your hips and grin broadly - that should worry her. I hope your OH has a ginormous pension pot and you have none, he'll love having to split his with you - not!

paddy's_mum

Narla - that smirk says EVERYTHING about her ... none of it nice.

It never ceases to amaze me that cheats can't see that the bad behaviour shown to the ex-spouse by the new love is a huge signpost into how they can themselves expect to be treated further down the line.

There's an old saying that the deserted wife's best revenge is to let the other woman have him. Perhaps your estranged husband may one day find some younger, fitter, haired, handsome guy smirking in the mirror at him. Natural justice or what :T

Take care of yourself. You will come out of all this a better, stronger, wiser woman. Good luck.

Narla

jenhug wrote: »

Narla, slightly off topic, but can you list 3 traits/habits your husband had that used to irritate you?

Oh my goodness - what a fabulous question to ask me! Now that I'm actually thinking about it there are a lot more than 3! Maybe I'll write them down and start to realise the the things that I will not miss in the future.

In fact my 20 year old daughter (who is away at Uni) said 'mum, you are going to be fine. The way he often spoke to you was out of order... he'll end up a lonely old man and you are going to blossom!' That has really helped!

Thanks x

barbiedoll

Narla wrote: »

In fact my 20 year old daughter (who is away at Uni) said 'mum, you are going to be fine. The way he often spoke to you was out of order... he'll end up a lonely old man and you are going to blossom!' That has really helped!

Thanks x

Your daughter is a very wise young woman. Your ex's new bit of stuff will probably tire of him eventually and even if she doesn't, she'll have all of his health worries, his jelly belly (he won't be going to the gym forever!) and his aches, pains, moans and groans to look forward to.
Whereas you have a life of freedom, fun and (with a bit of luck) frolicking to come!

CruisingSaver

Narla wrote: »

I decided to brave the gym tonight...I was drying my hair when the b*tch breezed past me and stared a little bit too long right into my eyes through the mirror with a smirk on her face!! I managed so well to ignore her but not sure I can keep it up x

Hi Narla

Just smirk straight back at her in a knowing kind of way, she'll wonder why you're happy to be shot of him

CS xx

Errata

Narla wrote: »

Oh my goodness - what a fabulous question to ask me! Now that I'm actually thinking about it there are a lot more than 3! Maybe I'll write them down and start to realise the the things that I will not miss in the future.

In fact my 20 year old daughter (who is away at Uni) said 'mum, you are going to be fine. The way he often spoke to you was out of order... he'll end up a lonely old man and you are going to blossom!' That has really helped!

Thanks x

Just remember that next time his fancy piece smirks at you, you can grin right back.

jenhug

Narla wrote: »

Oh my goodness - what a fabulous question to ask me! Now that I'm actually thinking about it there are a lot more than 3! Maybe I'll write them down and start to realise the the things that I will not miss in the future.

In fact my 20 year old daughter (who is away at Uni) said 'mum, you are going to be fine. The way he often spoke to you was out of order... he'll end up a lonely old man and you are going to blossom!' That has really helped!

Thanks x

Next time you are at the gym, ask yourself, how long it will take his new younger girlfriend to find those exact same things irritating. You are gonna grin all the way through your work out!

And yes, start a list! xx