Would you ring?

MadDogWoman_2

Hi,

If I was in your situation I would have to call OH home as I have a habit of passing out if have both symptoms at the same time, so it's more a safety thing.

ska_lover

hazyjo wrote: »

No - I would get myself to the doctors (baby in tow or looked after), or call a doctor out if I really couldn't make it that far. Or at least ring the NHS helpline or whatever it is now.

I wouldn't be able to leave if my OH was ill. They'd not be impressed. I did manage it once when my ex was taken to hospital with a suspected heart attack...

Jx

Yes but there is a toddler who is not being able to be looked after properly (not the mothers fault, not a dig op) but some things are far more important than what your work manager thinks of you..

If my OH rang me at work with these symptoms, I would be telling my manager I was off home as I put my coat on,, not asking for permission

FBaby

I remember the time my baby was 10 months old. I was at work 1 hour away and started feeling poorly in the afternoon. As I got to train station, I was sick and started to panic about getting on the train. I did and pray I wouldn't want to be sick again. I felt dreadful, but managed it. I normally would then have driven to pick my baby from the childminder but didn't feel I would manage it. My partner at the time worked even further away than me, so couldn't rely on him so I called his mum, who I got along great with. She came to pick me up, we then pick daughter up, and then dropped us home....and went back to her home!

I felt quite aggrieved then as all I wanted was to pass out on the sofa, instead I had a toddler full of beans demanding a lot of attention. Looking back, it was my fault as I should have asked her to stay, she would have done, but I just assumed she would see how I felt and offer. I didn't know her that well by then.

emweaver

Yorkie1 wrote: »

To be more precise, the right is to take time off to arrange care for them. There's a long thread on this over in the Employment board.

https://www.gov.uk/parental-leave/entitlement

It clearly says if a child is under 5 you are entitled to 18 weeks of unpaid parental leave (not per year but from birth until their 5th birthday). It is limited to 4 weeks per year.

It also states:

Eligible employees can take unpaid parental leave to look after their child’s welfare, eg to:

spend more time with their children
look at new schools
settle children into new childcare arrangements
spend more time with family - eg visiting grandparents
Their employment rights (like the right to pay, holidays and returning to a job) are protected during parental leave.


Does not mention that you can only have time off to arrange care as to be fair you could arrange someone to look after them over the telephone from work or in the evening the night before.

emweaver

ska_lover wrote: »

Yes but there is a toddler who is not being able to be looked after properly (not the mothers fault, not a dig op) but some things are far more important than what your work manager thinks of you..

If my OH rang me at work with these symptoms, I would be telling my manager I was off home as I put my coat on,, not asking for permission

Could not agree more.

sacha28

Absolutely call your OH, he is the other parent, has parental RESPONSIBILITY, why shouldn't he come home? Family first, job 2nd IMHO.

One thing I totally disagree with is going to A&E with D&V. Hospitals are full to brimming with vulnerable sick people and the last thing they need is somebody with gastroenteritis (an airborne and highly contagious bug) infecting them. Any GP worth his salt will come to the house and give anti-emetics to stop you vomiting so you can top up your fluids. If you read the posters in any hospital you will see that they literally BEG anyone that has had D&V in the past 48 hours to stay away.

If the D&V persists past 48 hours then go to the dept but you will not be looked on favourably for turning up after only a few hours of it. I know it sounds harsh but that is the way things are being dealt with to stop infection spreading through the hospitals like wildfire. In our trust we have only just opened up 4 wards that were closed due to D&V. Imagine if your relative was stuck in A&E for 10 hours as there were no available beds as somebody thought it was a good idea to bring in D&V?

hawk30

emweaver wrote: »

https://www.gov.uk/parental-leave/entitlement

It clearly says if a child is under 5 you are entitled to 18 weeks of unpaid parental leave (not per year but from birth until their 5th birthday). It is limited to 4 weeks per year.

It also states:

Eligible employees can take unpaid parental leave to look after their child’s welfare, eg to:

spend more time with their children
look at new schools
settle children into new childcare arrangements
spend more time with family - eg visiting grandparents
Their employment rights (like the right to pay, holidays and returning to a job) are protected during parental leave.


Does not mention that you can only have time off to arrange care as to be fair you could arrange someone to look after them over the telephone from work or in the evening the night before.

Yorkie was talking about time off for dependants, which is different to parental leave (which you have posted about). You need to give notice for parental leave, so you couldn't force your employer to give you this in this situation.

squirrelchops

Absolutely I would ring my partner - there are 2 parents to the child and if one needs help the other should step in.

hazyjo

ska_lover wrote: »

Yes but there is a toddler who is not being able to be looked after properly (not the mothers fault, not a dig op) but some things are far more important than what your work manager thinks of you..

If my OH rang me at work with these symptoms, I would be telling my manager I was off home as I put my coat on,, not asking for permission

Which is why I added the comment under my other one...

Can only speak from my own work. They're horrendous when it comes to things like this. Lawyers - fine. They can do what they like. Admin staff? Haha joke. Had to take a week of the two weeks I had off when my dad died as holiday. As you can see, not very understanding. Wouldn't mind, but they're raking in millions. Not like they had to get anyone in to cover for me, and had no work when got back.

Jx