Would you ring?

duchy

Your first responsibility is to your child.......if you aren't able to care for them then you need to find someone else who can.

Ring your doctors for advice or NHS direct (whatever the new name is for it) or just take yourself and baby down to A&E. If they do decide you need treatment and rehydrating A&E may call for you once you are seen -which might make you feel more believed by his work (they sound charming btw ....unless you have a history of ringing him with trivial stuff at work I can't see why they would think you were a baby)

fabforty

I would ring. If OH was that ill and it meant that he was unable to care for our children, I would be pretty !!!!ed off if he didn't let me know.

wiogs

JemmaM91 wrote: »

Yeah we do live together, but he went out for a few drinks last night and stayed at his parents house overnight, as it is just around the corner to work, rather than a 20 minute drive.

I was perfectly fine yesterday, hoping its a 24 hour bug

Firstly ring your doc/NHS.

Secondly arrange care for your child.

Thirdly ring partner (two and three may be the same)

He may not be able to drive as he may be over the limit but he needs to know.

aileth

Agree with the above. Ring NHS Direct, or if the GP is open ring there, try and arrange someone to care for the child, if no one is available ring partner's work and explain the position. If someone is available and NHS Direct advise you to go to the hospital, ring partner's work and advise him.

I suppose it all depends on his work really. My OH's old job would've laughed and told him tough sh*t I have to cope (then again that was his ex-father in law), whereas now they would let him go straight away and he'd just owe the hours.

Any

Well, if I was feeling like you are describing I would definitely ring.
I would not think twice about it.
But then these things had happened at his and my work and it is tried and tested that there will be an understanding. He can also still work from home.. if they needed him.

It is funny how different experiences make us think differently about things.. I would not considered trying looking after a baby if I was sick every 20 mins if I had option of help. I would probably shut myself away worried it will catch it!

tyllwyd

His work ought to let him have time off to look after his family in an emergency
https://www.gov.uk/time-off-for-dependants/your-rights
If you are vomiting every 10/20 mins you can't look after your son properly so I think you would be justified in asking him to come home - I would.

duchy

When all is said and done the father is an adult...... give him the facts and he can decide. He knows his work situation better than any of us. He might come home, he might sat "Honey I can't -the boss is already on the warpath today it'd get me sacked" or he might suggest someone the Mum hasn't thought of who could look after Baby.

The fact the OP feels she needs "us" to validate ringing him is not good. As a couple they have joint responsibility for looking after their child-they should decide together what is best in their particular circumstances (including taking into account that if it is a bug the longer baby spends with Mum the higher the chance of the child getting sick too)

iwannanicerlife

If I was that ill I would definitely ring. But if I was well enough to be posting online and checking responses to messages, no I probably wouldn't .....

Not trying to be rude, just expressing my opinion.

tea_lover

iwannanicerlife wrote: »

If I was that ill I would definitely ring. But if I was well enough to be posting online and checking responses to messages, no I probably wouldn't .....

Not trying to be rude, just expressing my opinion.

I had very similar symptoms to the OP a few months back and I spent the time I wasn't in the bathroom on the internet looking for reassurance that I wasn't going to die any minute. I've never felt so ill in my life and did in fact end up in hospital. There's no way I'd have been able to look after a boisterous toddler, but I was capable of typing on my phone to look for help.

twigpig

Yes, or at least ring someone for some help. You're obviously not well enough to look after yourself or anyone else today......... I hope you feel better soon and it's nothing serious