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  • meritaten
    meritaten Posts: 24,158 Forumite
    I also think that procedures must vary massively between different areas - some of the posts shocked me!
  • Spendless
    Spendless Posts: 24,668 Forumite
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    Janepig wrote: »
    I hadn't thought about it from that perspective. The breakfast club at the school is run on a kind of "open house" rather than a formal basis, so you could go one day but not the next. I don't think they'd logistically be able to have some sort of absence procedure in place because it's too soon to ring the school to say if you're not going in.Jx
    At my DD's wrap around care, it is run from a port-a-cabin on the school premises. Opens before school is open, closes later than they do and runs in the hols when they are shut but there's a mobile phone you contact them on if you want to cancel or book a place or need to speak to them.
  • duchy
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    Meri the vast majority of kids with SEN or AEN are NOT chaperoned if a taxi is provided by their LEA . It's not deemed needed and is very expensive.
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  • fluffnutter
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    Not read the whole thread so no doubt things have moved on but from the opening post...

    1. The fact that this child is 'not a particularly nice kid' is neither here nor there.

    2. I'm not one to bang on about the halcyon old days, but I was walking to junior school alone so it's perfectly possible that a 7, nearly 8 year old, can get himself from a taxi door to the school gate without being abducted, absconding or exploding.

    I really can't see what the fuss is about.
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  • bylromarha
    bylromarha Posts: 10,085 Forumite
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    edited 17 October 2013 at 1:38PM
    pmlindyloo wrote: »

    I don't know how long ago the 'I walked a thousand miles to school on my own when I was three years old' brigade are referring to but the truth of the matter is that times change.

    I genuinely don't think they have changed. I think our perception of them have. If anything, things have improved as people are far more aware now of where potential CP issues could occur.

    Kids are kids are kids. Some are always !!!!less, some are great, some are annoying, some will bunk off. Some can safely walk to school alone from a young age, others can't.

    Parents are parents are parents. Some are always !!!!less, some are great, some are annoying, some will allow their child to bunk off. Some will train their child to safely walk to school alone from a young age, others won't or don't want to. Some will shove their kids out the front door without a care for their childs safety.

    The only thing which has significantly changed since we were kids is the amount of traffic on the roads. ;)

    Edit: When did f e c k less become a rude word?!
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  • pmlindyloo wrote: »
    I so agree.

    I am amazed by some of these replies.

    I don't know how long ago the 'I walked a thousand miles to school on my own when I was three years old' brigade are referring to but the truth of the matter is that times change.

    I walked to school along a main road when I was 7 c1971. How have times changed since then?
  • ilikewatch
    ilikewatch Posts: 1,072 Forumite
    edited 17 October 2013 at 12:41PM
    I walked to school along a main road when I was 7 c1971. How have times changed since then?

    Well, the Tufty Club and Green Cross Code man aren't about any more for starters...

    The risks to childrens welfare have decreased, but peoples awareness of those risks has increased massively - the net result is that some people have started to believe that childrens welfare is more at risk now than it has been in previous decades.
  • jellyhead
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    I was more offended by the judgemental attitude. It's all a bit nice family/rough family.

    That's not that way I took it - I thought she was suggesting that this boy may be more likely to get into trouble or not cross the road carefully, etc. if he is an impulsive child. Also, this sounds nasty but if he in unpopular due to violence then other mums are less likely to step in and help him if he is getting into trouble or ask him where he's going if he starts walking into town instead of going into school, for example.

    Janepig are you worried that he might be run over by the taxi that's doing a u-turn? At this age he wouldn't be the only child who is not accompanied to the door, but the head would know if this lad should be seen across the road, or through the door.
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  • jellyhead
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    Spendless wrote: »
    I can only answer for my kids schools but if child doesn't turn up and no-one has contacted them to say why, they ring the house/mobile phone number of the people registered on their contacts list to ask why.

    And now how I know they def follow this thru. Some time ago, me and both kids had the 'lurgy' so I asked Mr S to ring school saying kids were sick so we could all go back to sleep (it was too early for school office to be open). He forgot! I was woken from much needed sleep by the school office to ask why children weren't there.

    That's school though.

    I don't think the breakfast club at our school would follow up - not in a morning.

    They bring an up to date list to the playground when they pick up the children after school and escort them to the club, and yes they'd ring around/check with staff if a child was on their list but didn't appear to be in the playground, but in the morning I reckon they would just assume that the child wasn't coming. Drop-off times can be so varied anyhow ... so it could be 90 minutes or more before the 'child not in school' procedures kicked into place.

    That's the parent's decision though, whether or not to trust their child to go through the door. I don't trust mine to make his own way to school, but if he were dropped off at the gates I would.
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