Should I say something or keep my nose out?

yvonne13_2

Janepig wrote: »

No, the the mother of the child I was giving a lift to was a friend. This child in my OP isn't really known to me that well, certainly not well enough to offer lifts to, not that I would anyway seeing as how the last lifts he was getting from a classmate ended.

Cor blimey, people are saying it's a sad reflection on society that I've asked if I should say something or not (bear in mind it's not illegal yet to have "thoughts" about something), I haven't acted on anything yet, and probably won't given the howls of protest on here - however it's seen to be "predatory" to offer a lift to a friend's child when their car is off the road to save them paying for a taxi (I never said they were short of money). Maybe professionals in "safeguarding children" would be better served in being aware of parents who are beating and starving their children to death given the glut of cases in the media recently.

Jx

So if you don't really know them how is it your getting all mithered over a taxi driver dropping of the child? Like I've already said it could be a relative or family friend.

P.s Just because the child didn't behave before isn't a reason for you to be jumping to conclusions. It seems you've only had one sided information about this child from an adult you're friends with.

arbroath_lass

yvonne13 wrote: »

So if you don't really know them how is it your getting all mithered over a taxi driver dropping of the child? Like I've already said it could be a relative or family friend.

Relative or not the driver will also have to have undergone thorough police checks before being given a taxi licence.

I still don't understand what it is the OP wants to report?

ilikewatch

Janepig wrote: »

however it's seen to be "predatory" to offer a lift to a friend's child when their car is off the road to save them paying for a taxi (I never said they were short of money)

Maybe I wasn't clear when I said "Of course it's pretty normal for friends to share the school run, but that wasn't obvious from what you said at first."?

Janepig wrote: »

Maybe professionals in "safeguarding children" would be better served in being aware of parents who are beating and starving their children to death given the glut of cases in the media recently.

Maybe they'd actually "be better served" being aware of, and trying to control all significant risks to a childs welfare?

Janepig

yvonne13 wrote: »

So if you don't really know them how is it your getting all mithered over a taxi driver dropping of the child? Like I've already said it could be a relative or family friend.

P.s Just because the child didn't behave before isn't a reason for you to be jumping to conclusions. It seems you've only had one sided information about this child from an adult you're friends with.

What one sided information have I had from an adult I'm friends with? I don't know whose posts you're reading but they're not mine. I haven't discussed this with anyone at the school - I don't know if you're on about when I mentioned he'd kicked my child in the face and I was told independently that DS had done nothing to "provoke" the attack - that was actually one of the dinner ladies at breakfast club the following day who told me when I dropped him off (he was younger then and I used to take him to the door) as she was on lunchtime supervising duty when it happened and went to help DS. She's not someone I'm friends with, I simply know her as a dinner lady at the school. I don't think I've spoken to her since then.

And it's not a case of him not behaving "before", there have been issues as recent as last week. I've got no axe to grind with him, I feel a bit sorry for him really, but I think the reason for putting the stuff in about his behaviour is that there are surely some children you see in a certain situation who you wouldn't raise an eyebrow about, whereas others you might be concerned about. He's someone I would be a bit concerned about. I'm not looking to get him into trouble because I don't like him or anything, he's only 7 fgs. I just wanted some input as to whether I was right to go over it in my mind. Clearly not according to some.

Jx

thorsoak

I have not read any of the replies to your first comment - but in my opinion, you should butt out!

seven-day-weekend

I had to read your post several times to see if I had missed something as I did not understand what the problem was.

The child was sent to school by taxi, for whatever reason. The taxi driver is not a childminder, he took him to school and dropped him off. Job done.

Maybe it's me.

poet123

I suspect that because the child seems to have form for misbehaving the OP is thinking that unless he is seen to enter school premises there really is nothing to stop him looking like he is going in but actually then just bunking off. If he did that the breakfast club would have no way of knowing and potentially he could be missing for anything up to an hour before the school register was taken and the usual non arrival procedures swing into action.

The op is not saying all kids need to be chaperoned just that knowing this child she can see potential for issues. If it was me and I thought that way I would mention it to the head, they can then choose to do something or nothing.

suelizab

poet123 wrote: »

I suspect that because the child seems to have form for misbehaving the OP is thinking that unless he is seen to enter school premises there really is nothing to stop him looking like he is going in but actually then just bunking off. If he did that the breakfast club would have no way of knowing and potentially he could be missing for anything up to an hour before the school register was taken and the usual non arrival procedures swing into action.

The op is not saying all kids need to be chaperoned just that knowing this child she can see potential for issues. If it was me and I thought that way I would mention it to the head, they can then choose to do something or nothing.

Exactly, The first person to see what her thinking was .

yvonne13_2

OP why are you so concerned about this particular child? What are you looking to achieve?

Does he look hungry? Underweight? Does he look unkempt? Do you have reason to believe the bad behaviour the child has displayed (so you say) has a reflection on something going on inside his home?

I honestly can't see why a child walking into school is your concern. Anyway good luck with your mission.

suelizab

poet123 wrote: »

I suspect that because the child seems to have form for misbehaving the OP is thinking that unless he is seen to enter school premises there really is nothing to stop him looking like he is going in but actually then just bunking off. If he did that the breakfast club would have no way of knowing and potentially he could be missing for anything up to an hour before the school register was taken and the usual non arrival procedures swing into action.

The op is not saying all kids need to be chaperoned just that knowing this child she can see potential for issues. If it was me and I thought that way I would mention it to the head, they can then choose to do something or nothing.

Exactly, The first person to see what her thinking was .