Should I say something or keep my nose out?

FatVonD

If the taxi is being provided for them (or even if they are paying for it themselves) I doubt the deal includes taking the mum back home again afterwards.

I don't think it's anything to worry about. At the start of year 6 my son's primary school were asking us NOT to take them to school at all but let them go on their own to build their confidence for high school.

Janepig

Tenyearstogo wrote: »

I was more offended by the judgemental attitude. It's all a bit nice family/rough family.

Not sure what you mean by this. I know little about the family, they aren't "rough", I know the child has caused issues for DS and others (including kicking DS in the face while he was sitting down minding his own business - independently told to me by someone with no axe to grind). There are no special needs (which would account for there being no chaperone it would seem), although I know that his parents have been to meetings at the school about him as I've seen them there myself, not via gossip. A sensible child I could see maybe being trusted to go to school alone. This particular child, I'm not sure.

And I haven't been gossiping about it at the school - in fact I didn't even get out of the car yesterday afternoon there. I've asked in work and on here, purposely.

Nonnatus, you're right. I've had many a flaming on here over the years, it's water off a duck's back. And worth it for the interesting points that have made their way through the flames of the thread

Jx

Tenyearstogo

Janepig wrote: »

Not sure what you mean by this. I know little about the family, they aren't "rough", I know the child has caused issues for DS and others (including kicking DS in the face while he was sitting down minding his own business - independently told to me by someone with no axe to grind). There are no special needs (which would account for there being no chaperone it would seem), although I know that his parents have been to meetings at the school about him as I've seen them there myself, not via gossip. A sensible child I could see maybe being trusted to go to school alone. This particular child, I'm not sure.

And I haven't been gossiping about it at the school - in fact I didn't even get out of the car yesterday afternoon there. I've asked in work and on here, purposely.

Nonnatus, you're right. I've had many a flaming on here over the years, it's water off a duck's back. And worth it for the interesting points that have made their way through the flames of the thread

Jx

Were you privy to the content of those meetings?

It's not going TO school by himself, it's going INTO school by himself. Aren't your own children sensible enough to go in by themselves?

kerri_dfw

I would say that by the fact you've asked whether you should keep your nose out, that you know deep down you should keep your nose out. The mother may well take note of the taxi drivers name & number and book the cab each day, therefore have it logged. Not all taxi drivers are rapists and murderers. Would you be even having this conversation if the child were getting a bus?

Janepig

Tenyearstogo wrote: »

Were you privy to the content of those meetings?

It's not going TO school by himself, it's going INTO school by himself. Aren't your own children sensible enough to go in by themselves?

Of course I wasn't privy to the contents but knowing what went on in school in the run up to the meetings it doesn't take a rocket scientist to work out what it was about.

My children always go into school by themselves. I watch them for my own piece of mind and because I have the time.

kerri_dfw wrote: »

I would say that by the fact you've asked whether you should keep your nose out, that you know deep down you should keep your nose out. The mother may well take note of the taxi drivers name & number and book the cab each day, therefore have it logged. Not all taxi drivers are rapists and murderers. Would you be even having this conversation if the child were getting a bus?

Yes I would be having the conversation even if he were going by bus. Possibly more so.

Jx

LandyAndy

SailorSam wrote: »

The runs we did for Special Needs never had a distance limit, so maybe less than a mile or 50mls away, they were the ones that we had a minder in the cab. The minder would walk them into the school or pick them up in the afternoon while i waited.
In your story Op it's very likely that the childs Mum is just paying for the Cab exactly as she would for a bus if one was convenient, nobody would expect the bus driver to get off and walk his passengers into a building.

Escort, I think.;)

Very fair point about the bus though.

bylromarha

OH and I are talking about dropping our kids at the bottom of the road and letting DS (9) and DD (7) walk up the hill, down a pathway, then into the school gate.

WITHOUT AN ADULT... what awful parents we are, trying to teach our kids responsibility...

There is NOTHING AT ALL to say here to the school. If you watch your kids in, then you'll be able to intervene should the taxi child start beating your child black and blue - you'll actually have something to say then.

And the fact that you've even started a thread on MSE about it tells me what a state this country has got into its head about child protection and mollycoddling children.

I was one of many people who walked to school alone from around age 5. A busy road to cross as well, but I knew how to use the lollipop lady as I'd been taught.

cutestkids

A child arrived at school in a taxi, got out and walked into school.

What is it that you find so unusual about it.

OK the child has had a few problems in the past at school as do many. I really am not getting the connection between any of what has happened in the past with regards to the boy and his behaviour, the parents having a meeting at school and how he gets to school.

I am not trying to have a go here just genuinely do not see what the issue is.

Perhaps the fact that you are dropping off so early in the morning for breakfast club means you do not get to see how the children in general arrive at school, you may find when arriving at 8.30 for the start of school many more children are getting there under their own steam, getting dropped off a bit away and walking in etc, are you going to be concerned about all of them.

mummyroysof3

My worry would be what if the child decided he didn't want to go in and wondered of...would the staff know and how long before they noticed and did something about it?

Tenyearstogo

mummyroysof3 wrote: »

My worry would be what if the child decided he didn't want to go in and wondered of...would the staff know and how long before they noticed and did something about it?

I think that's what the OP was worried about but she got side tracked by the fact that the child has hit her child in the past.