Should I say something or keep my nose out?

dandelionclock30

At 6 and 7, I walked 1/2 a mile to school myself an then came home and made myself my tea and wited till after 9p.m. when my parents got home.
Social services do not always provide chaperones far from it.

You havent seen anything abusive going on, a child got out of a taxi. I'd just mind my own buisness in this instance.

Janepig

Spendless wrote: »

Wouldn't the school contact her if the child hasn't gone to school and no-one has contacted them to say why they aren't going to be in? That's what happens where I live.

Is the child going to the breakfast club?The wrap-around care at my DD's school insists on an adult dropping off/picking up child. It's stricter than school that has no rules about children going to and from school alone from yr 3.

I'm not sure if they would contact her. We've always rung in if ours are off so I've never tested this.

The staff at breakfast club are a mix of LSA's and dinner ladies. They like the little ones to be dropped by a parent but not so the older ones. They have a staff member on the door.

Jx

LondonDiva

At eight, after we moved house, I caught a bus, tube (changed lines) and then another bus to get to school. If I was ok doing this by myself, I think a child should be able to get out of a car and walk into school without an escort - slightly concerned about the instant suggestion that the mother is somehow negligent for not personally supervising the taxi driver or that the authorities need to be alerted.

Janepig

LondonDiva wrote: »

At eight, after we moved house, I caught a bus, tube (changed lines) and then another bus to get to school. If I was ok doing this by myself, I think a child should be able to get out of a car and walk into school without an escort - slightly concerned about the instant suggestion that the mother is somehow negligent for not personally supervising the taxi driver or that the authorities need to be alerted.

I wasn't suggesting that. I wasn't sure whether it was appropriate or not so I've asked around for views. I wouldn't put my own seven year old in a taxi to school on his own and knowing what I do about this other child I'm not sure he should be either but if the general consensus is that it's fine I can live with that. Casting no aspersions on the mother particularly.

Jx

yvonne13_2

OP you're over analysing something that's not your concern. If it's bothering you so much then best you have a quiet word with the child's mother before saying something to the school.

Don't get me wrong I can understand your concern but sometimes telling people how to lead their life can cause you nothing but problems in the long run.

troubleinparadise

The child isn't really the school's responsibility until they're within the school's boundaries and operating times - until then surely it is up to the parent/s?

Have we become too concerned that there is evil lurking round every corner, to the point that it is within a few yards between the car door and the school gate?

Whilst bad things do happen, it is still very uncommon; as my mother told me, she wouldn't have left me in a pram outside a shop 50-odd years ago - it was possible then, but I was allowed to walk the half mile or so to school with my younger sister when we were 10 and 7 in the early 70's - without any suggestion of danger.

I'm not sure that even mentioning it to the school will make any difference, unless it just puts your conscience to rest.

Up to you!

yvonne13_2

Janepig wrote: »

I wasn't suggesting that. I wasn't sure whether it was appropriate or not so I've asked around for views. I wouldn't put my own seven year old in a taxi to school on his own and knowing what I do about this other child I'm not sure he should be either but if the general consensus is that it's fine I can live with that. Casting no aspersions on the mother particularly.

Jx

OP tread very carefully, going around gossiping about people is not on.

What you may do compared to others is not a reason to go around making out like the mother is doing something wrong. You don't know what goes on behind closed doors.

cutestkids

Several children at our local school get taxis alone, they are dropped off at the pavement near the entrance the youngest is 6 none of them seem to have any problems getting into school.
I would be happy for my own child who has just turned 8 to get to school this way.
I am not sure what you think the problem is- is it the fact that he is in a taxi alone, or that he is not escorted into the school building I o not see either being a problem.

SailorSam

I did school runs when i was on the cabs, the kids who went to ordinary schools had to live at least 3mls away with no other convenient transport (buses), available. So basically rural. To me it was like any other fare i'd drop them off and drive away.
The runs we did for Special Needs never had a distance limit, so maybe less than a mile or 50mls away, they were the ones that we had a minder in the cab. The minder would walk them into the school or pick them up in the afternoon while i waited.
In your story Op it's very likely that the childs Mum is just paying for the Cab exactly as she would for a bus if one was convenient, nobody would expect the bus driver to get off and walk his passengers into a building.

Buttonmoons

I walk my daughter into Bkfast club, I could stand at the top of the road and watch her amble down, but I'd not see her go in the actual door from there, she is 7, but I don't think that's too bad, and at least the child is going into the breakfast club once he's out the taxi.

In my area, most of them walk to it themselves, and some of them are Primary 1 - some don't even go in, they just loiter around the general vicinity,there parents aren't there making sure they are going in and as they never go into the breakfast club the workers themselves couldn't pass on info to them, but then I guess they don't know that a lot of them aren't even going in (the staff) but it's independent from the school and run by volunteers.

I like her breakfast club, they always give me some toast when I'm madly dashing in to run back up the road for my bus