To become a sahm?

FBaby

princessdon wrote: »

To be fair it's also a bug bear of mine how much childcare we pay for. 16 hour claimants often claim FT childcare and then use the time to do housework, get their hair done etc. I think it should be limited to hours around work only.

Oh I do have an issue with that too, I've stated my views here before how you should only be able to claim for the number of hours you work. I personally don't know anyone who does this/done this because it still means paying 30% and all my friends who work actually want to spend time with their kids when they don't work.

zagfles

FBaby wrote: »

How can this be compared? In one case, one contributes towards the system whilst also taking from it, in the other, they only take and contributes nothing. Add to this that the parent who continues to work is much more likely to up their skills and move up the ladder quicker (therefore paying back more taxes) than the parent who has chosen to have a career break.

How much would someone returning to a part time NMW job and getting £100pw childcare WTC "put back" do you think?

Why mentioning it in the first place then? It would like a poster believing that working parents is better for pre-school children and suggest to SAHP to read up on children suffering from separation anxiety and to avoid it.

It's something every parent should be aware of.

princessdon

FBaby wrote: »

Oh I do have an issue with that too, I've stated my views here before how you should only be able to claim for the number of hours you work. I personally don't know anyone who does this/done this because it still means paying 30% and all my friends who work actually want to spend time with their kids when they don't work.

I guess working for years in childcare gives you an insight. It's not many for the reasons you state but its common for people to add half a day.

princessdon

zagfles wrote: »

How much would someone returning to a part time NMW job and getting £100pw childcare WTC "put back" do you think?

It's something every parent should be aware of.

Why is it something parents should be aware of? There is no clinical evidence (in fact it's the opposite).

How many under 5's use childcare in the UK? How many have AD?

Even without other social issues taken in to account the percentage is negligible to the point it can not be recorded.

zagfles

princessdon wrote: »

Why is it something parents should be aware of? There is no clinical evidence (in fact it's the opposite).

How many under 5's use childcare in the UK? How many have AD?

Even without other social issues taken in to account the percentage is negligible to the point it can not be recorded.

Well you've researched it so clearly you think there's a need to know about it!

princessdon

zagfles wrote: »

Well you've researched it so clearly you think there's a need to know about it!

Yes someone working in the field suggested there could be a link, so people were rightly concerned and investigated. Anything that harms babies and has the potential to cause harm needs complete investigation. It was carried out by many.

FBaby

How much would someone returning to a part time NMW job and getting £100pw childcare WTC "put back" do you think?

100pw childcare would be about £600 a month. For 16 hours a week, that would be for two children. If you plan it that your children are 3 years apart, that would only be one year paying that much until the eldest in at school. Over the 5 years, there are bound to put in more than the stay at home mum, even with some childcare paid during that time.

FBaby

It's something every parent should be aware of.

Every parent should also be aware of separation anxieties that doesn't mean it gets brought up when parents discuss becoming SAHP.

zagfles

FBaby wrote: »

100pw childcare would be about £600 a month. For 16 hours a week, that would be for two children. If you plan it that your children are 3 years apart, that would only be one year paying that much until the eldest in at school. Over the 5 years, there are bound to put in more than the stay at home mum, even with some childcare paid during that time.

Really? How much tax and NI would they pay?

Anyway who cares - I'm sure nobody with any sense is interested in the moral judgement of strangers on the internet. Not on this board anyway - they can go to the marriages board if they want moral judgement, or DT to discuss crackpot ideas of how things should be. Here is the place to discuss how things are. And if someone with a new baby wants to give up work and be a SAHP, and claim loads in benefits & tax credits, they can, whether you like it or not.

Carry on moralising if you want. I'm out of here. In future I'll just report threads where people asking for benefit advice are judged, without getting sucked into pointless discussions myself. Ta ta.

tictak

Heres one solution which i tried 16 years ago
After having my first son i didnt want to go back to work commuting to london so when he was just over one i got a job in a restaurant working 3 evenings a week and hubby looked after him(no childcare costs .
Ive been there ever since and had another son whilst there