What happens if you are not Christened ?

Mrs_pbradley936

Percy1983 wrote: »

But why would you want your child to go a roman catholic school if you wasn't roman catholic (to which you would have hadd your children baptised).

With that is there a central record anywhere?

In some areas Catholic schools get far better results than the other schools in the area. If you can produce a Certificate of Baptism and a letter from a priest to say you attend mass regularly then your child is in front of those children that are not baptised and the family are not regular church goers.

I expect that every church can produce its own records. However most families will keep certificates and photos of the event.

Torry_Quine

supersaver2 wrote: »

Strange that this subject has come up as yesterday I attended a Christening and on Saturday a reaffirmation of vows after 25 years of marriage. My friends who had their daughter christened are not in the slightest bit religious, and said they did it as it was the 'done thing!' Me and my wife are atheists and our daughter hasn't been christened, done thing to do or not!

I find churches odd places really, so many rules! The ceremony took place in a c of e church yet they took communion which I thought only Catholics did yet my friend who is a catholic said she wasn't allowed to go up and take communion as it was a c of e church. I did think 'not allowed?' Who says! I find it a bit like a cult, the Vicar saying words and people droning back, not my cup of tea at all!

All Christian churches have communion, not just Catholics. Catholics however don't allow non-Catholics to take communion in a Catholic church or for Catholics to take communion in a non-Catholic church.

Many churches though, mine included, have no restrictions and as long as you are a follower of Christ can take communion although no-one checks and it's entirely up to you and would have no problem with a Christian from another denomination taking communion.

balletshoes

Stephb1986 wrote: »

I was christened Catholic along with my soon to be husband but neither of us practise or really want to be that religion anymore (We don't want to be any religion) if we were to have a child and not have it christened what would happen if something awful (God forbid) happened to the child would it still be able to have a funeral?

Sorry if that sounds like a stupid question just wanted to know.

Steph xx

of course - you don't have to be a member of a church to have a funeral in one (again, this will vary from church to church and I'd like to think any priest/minister of the church would facillitate that).

As someone who no longer attends church, I've found that chapels of rest for funerals are very appropriate, and they are non-denominational.

daisiegg

Person_one wrote: »

So these pre-marriage 'classes' and being told they have to attend for X number of weeks before the wedding, couples could just say 'I'm not doing that, but you have to marry us anyway'?

Er, no...but they could go down the registry office and get married there!

daisiegg

Pee wrote: »

You can be buried without being christened because noone knows and noone asks the question. It isn't like you get a certificate of christening, and being as you are not around at the time... I think you should be christened both to get married and be a godparent. I was a godparent and I wasn't asked. I know that I was Christened and where, but I don't exactly know when - I know it was between when I was born and when I was a year old, but no more than that - and I was worried they would want proof. I wasn't even asked about it. So maybe it isn't a requirement, but I know my dad didn't know if he had been christed, so needed to do that before getting married and another friend did have to get christened to be a god parent.

You do get a christening certificate!

AlexLK

I was not christened as my parents were not church goers (still aren't), neither was my son for similar reasons. My wife was even though her family also do not generally go to church, they simply thought it was something "nice" to do.

Person_one

daisiegg wrote: »

Er, no...but they could go down the registry office and get married there!

So not legally obliged then!

daisiegg

Person_one wrote: »

So not legally obliged then!

Huh? Who is not legally obliged to do what?

Percy1983

Mrs_pbradley936 wrote: »

In some areas Catholic schools get far better results than the other schools in the area. If you can produce a Certificate of Baptism and a letter from a priest to say you attend mass regularly then your child is in front of those children that are not baptised and the family are not regular church goers.

I expect that every church can produce its own records. However most families will keep certificates and photos of the event.

They also have to legally take so many none catholic, so you may as well not bother if you don't agree and then let positive discrimination take care of it for you.

Mrs_Ryan

I went to a Catholic single-sex school that had very good results etc and I seem to recall that it's admission policy was priority to Catholics from 'feeder' primaries (one of which was mine) and non-Catholics from those schools, and I also know that there has to be a certain amount of non-Catholics admitted but they never asked for any evidence of my baptism if I remember rightly.
OH's family are NI Protestant and mine are Southern Irish Catholic but he's not religious at all- when we were in Dublin he went into a Protestant church for some reason and he thought it was strange when I refused to go in- although going back to the baptism thing I seem to remember being told if you weren't baptised you couldn't go to heaven (although this was at the same time we were being taught if you had sex before marriage you would go to hell...)