How often do you see members of your family?

AlexLK

My parents I usually see a couple of times per week. There are odd occasions I see Mother's extended family.

We see Mrs. K.'s family less often, the one we see the most is her brother. She doesn't get on well with her sister and we see her parents a few times a year ... thank goodness!

SailorSam

Before my Mum died i saw her every day. Since she's died my Sisters and i see less and less of each other, one i may go to see every couple of months, she's only around the corner, she comes when she wants something. The other sister we've had a big fall out and i'll be quite happy if i never see or hear from her again.

lee111s

We're a pretty close family and I see most of them on a weekly basis. I'm 26 and live on my own.

See my parents 2-3 times a week
Grandparents once a week
Sister once every 3-4 weeks
Cousins once a week
Aunts and uncles once a week

tea_lover

I have a v small family (parents, sister, niece, grandad), we all live within 10 mins of each other and we all get on brilliantly. I see most of them a couple of times a week, depending on work, etc. I text my dad and sister most days, and if my mum had a phone I'd text her too.

Meadows

sapphireeye wrote: »

I just wanted to post and see if I could get an idea of how often other people see various members of their family, mainly parents and grandparents. I imagine that maybe the situation is different dependent on ages, whether you have children and so on.

As my parents live a horrendous (small roads in the last hours drive) five hour drive away we see them twice a year (they are both elderly but as we have nowhere to stay at theirs it costs us around £300 for a weekend stay in a rental plus the fuel costs).

Hubby sees his mum once every ???? years if she is lucky (she lives about three hours drive away - again no where to stay).

Our daughter lives a twenty minutes walk away and we see here about once a week/fortnight.

daisiegg

I live with my husband. He has a daughter who he sees every second weekend, but she lives 300 miles away so I rarely see her - maybe 6 times a year these days (I can't often go with him when he goes to see her as it is so expensive - train is close to £100 and we'd need two hotel rooms whereas they can get a room with twin beds, so I only see her when she comes to stay in holidays).

My husband's mum and siblings live near where his daughter lives. He sees them.....maybe once every two months if that. I see them less often - once or twice a year.

My mum and dad live 10 mins from me. I was about to say I see them once a week but I don't think I do - it is probably more like 3 times a month.

I see my sister around once a month, more than that if she is on a placement that means she is living at home with my parents, but less if she is on a placement further away.

When my brother was at home I saw him as often as I saw my parents but now he has gone to university and I suspect it will be only when he comes home for university holidays.

My grandparents on one side live 15 mins away and at the moment I probably see them twice a month but that is unforgivable. I must, must, must, make an effort to get in to them once a week.

I have an uncle and two cousins on that side who also live nearby and see them specifically only at Christmas or other family occasions like birthdays or Mother's Day, but I might 'see' them casually more often by bumping into them, and as my uncle is a builder he sometimes does some work at our house.

My grandfather, aunts and uncles and cousins on the other side live in Scotland. These days I see them once a year at Christmas (although it was more than that this year as there have been a few family weddings, including mine).

I speak to my mum on the phone multiple times a week and am always in touch with other family by text, phone calls and Facebook. I always find it strange how my husband can go weeks and weeks, to the point of months, without any contact with his mum or siblings. I sometimes say to him he could have no idea if they were alive or in the country or anything. Weird.

dragonette

My family don't tend to keep in touch just because we're family, my mum I see every few weeks and talkto/text about the same. When my nana was alive, I saw her twice a week growing up, once a week from about 16 and much less after staring university. I lived at home but the commute exhausted me.

Rest of family I see when I can't avoid it, well those that live far away I see as often those that are close by. I believe you should see/talk to people because its a positive relationship, not just because you share a common ancestor

fishybusiness

I personally have very little time at the moment due to being in my final year of a full-time university course as a mature student

Was in the same situation last year, my partner and kids were my main social circle for the year, plus my voluntary jobs.

Was so busy, I would pop in to see my mum when I was out doing something else close by. Even then, my head was full of exams, dissertation, finishing my degree etc.

Rest of my family I don´t see much, but my sister did comment last year that I do not visit, and cannot see how doing a degree can change frequency of family visits.

Mum, once every month or so, dad never, brother once a year, sister, well umm, don´t know yet!

Spending lots of time doing uni work changed my visit patterns.

I´m happier these days that I don´t feel I have to visit as often as I used to, so university did do me some good

Birdie85

I'm 28, married, with a baby on the way.

I live a 30 minute drive from my parents and see them about once a week. My brother lives the same distance away and I only see him about once a month and that's only if I make the effort to visit him without an invite because he just doesn't think about either inviting me round for dinner or coming to visit me. He's the same with my parents though so at least it's nothing personal I guess.

My DH sees his parents once a week and I see them about once a month. I see his brothers less often but DH works evenings and his family all work similar odd shifts/part time so he sees them all on a morning whilst I'm at work.

With both sides, I expect to see a lot more of them once the baby arrives, especially whilst I'm on maternity leave as both Mums are part time and will come through on their days off to 'keep me company'... the joy!

I don't see my extended family, no grandparents and the aunts, uncles and cousins all live about 70 miles away and I just CBA to visit. We've got nothing in common, the only thing that connects us is a bloodline but that doesn't mean we have to be close. Sad but true.

fredtheguava

I'm 29, a teacher, and live on my own.. I'm also an only child - to give this a frame of reference.

Parents: High days and Holidays - 3x birthdays (July, August, October), Christmas, Easter as a minimum. I will also see one or both for grandparents birthdays (2 per year, as my maternal grandparents have their birthdays within a week of each other) and the grandparent Christmas visits. So maybe 10 meals a year, which are not evenly spread out.

Grandparents: Their birthdays, Christmas, maybe Easter, and any 'big' events (wedding anniversaries ending in a 0, maybe big birthdays for me and parents). I make an effort to see the maternal pair independently every few months too, as I genuinely enjoy their company. So Dad's mum - maybe 3/4 visits (75 miles away), Mum's parents 5/6 visits per year (70 miles away).

Extended family: when I have to because we're visiting Dad's parents. I have no relationship with my aunts, uncles, cousins etc. because we have nothing in common and very different lifestyles. I'm afraid I don't buy into the idea that there's an obligation because we happen to have relatives in common, and will likely not see any of them once my Dad's mum passes on.

I have my 'chosen family' around me and actively make time for them. That makes me happy and I know they benefit from my time as much as I from them.