How to turn down a date?

meritaten

Why not be honest and say that 'I think of you as a friend - in a sisterly sort of way - can we keep the relationship as it is please?'

There_Goes_Trouble

He said he understands. I doubt it'll be a problem, he's too nice to be 'funny' about it as long as he's not awkward or embarrassed next time I see him. I will just be normal with him.

maintenanceman

Wow you are about to crush his confidence, self esteem and life worth. What makes me laugh is that I see so many couples that really don't match on looks or personality. But they work. If you don't like him on personality say so.I would much prefer if a girl said No. So i know where I was and would move on. Although a change of circumstance night help. I As a bloke if a girl said NO i would take it as a NO. Thats it anything else is unacceptable.

There_Goes_Trouble

maintenanceman wrote: »

Wow you are about to crush his confidence, self esteem and life worth. What makes me laugh is that I see so many couples that really don't match on looks or personality. But they work. If you don't like him on personality say so.I would much prefer if a girl said No. So i know where I was and would move on. Although a change of circumstance night help. I As a bloke if a girl said NO i would take it as a NO. Thats it anything else is unacceptable.

Really? I've ruined his life by turning down a date? Gosh, I have that much power?

I think you're being a bit over the top here. He asked me out for dinner, I said I was busy. He asked again for another night and I said thank you but I wouldn't want to mislead him and I wasn't looking for anything more than friendship. I also apologised if I'd misunderstood his intent in asking me out for dinner. His reply was "I understand. Good luck for tomorrow". (I'm running a race).

It's true, I do only want to be his friend and surely it's kinder than saying you're a lovely bloke but I find you incredibly unattractive, which is also the truth? Surely that would be far more likely to 'crush his confidence, self esteem and life worth'?

Funky_Bold_Ribena

There_Goes_Trouble wrote: »

Really? I've ruined his life by turning down a date? Gosh, I have that much power?

I think you're being a bit over the top here. He asked me out for dinner, I said I was busy. He asked again for another night and I said thank you but I wouldn't want to mislead him and I wasn't looking for anything more than friendship. I also apologised if I'd misunderstood his intent in asking me out for dinner. His reply was "I understand. Good luck for tomorrow". (I'm running a race).

It's true, I do only want to be his friend and surely it's kinder than saying you're a lovely bloke but I find you incredibly unattractive, which is also the truth? Surely that would be far more likely to 'crush his confidence, self esteem and life worth'?

Maintenance man trolls the boards at night, after a few bevvies, looking for women to wind up

There_Goes_Trouble

Thanks. I fell for it!

Funky_Bold_Ribena

There_Goes_Trouble wrote: »

Thanks. I fell for it!

You need to keep your wits about you if you are to avoid getting into conversations with inappropriate men

aileth

"Aww thanks, that's really sweet of you, but I see you as a friend, not of anything more. I hope that can continue."

Brighton_belle

Isn't calling a man "sweet" one of the big no no's?

aileth

Is it? I had no idea... I call my OH sweet all the time...