How to turn down a date?

tonycottee

I'm sorry I can't go out for dinner due to an itchy, burning sensation I get when I sit down.
He will never ask again.

BitterAndTwisted

You need to be direct. Some men don't get the subtle decline, so the next time they ask you it will be harder for you and for them.

Something like "I think you're really nice but I'm not interested in you in that way. If I was I would have made it clear a long time ago. Sorry".

There_Goes_Trouble

Thanks. Hint not taken so next reply will be direct but kind.

Will look at the excellent wording advice on her and will think about if for a while, will reply in an hour or so. I'm a 'reflector' so am better if I can think things through.

I hate this when it happens. Luckily for me it doesn't happen very often.

Funky_Bold_Ribena

'Aw, that's very sweet but I'll pass thanks'.

Fruit_and_Nut_Case

Plenty of thoughts out there:
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts4507939.aspx
http://www.artofflirting.com/how-to-decline-a-date

Speaking as a guy myself, make it clear to him. Anything other than a "No" will be taken as a "Perhaps". Men don't do subtle.

There_Goes_Trouble

Fruit_and_Nut_Case wrote: »

Plenty of thoughts out there:
http://forums.plentyoffish.com/datingPosts4507939.aspx
http://www.artofflirting.com/how-to-decline-a-date

Speaking as a guy myself, make it clear to him. Anything other than a "No" will be taken as a "Perhaps". Men don't do subtle.

Thanks. I know this really and have advised others the same in the past. It's not so easy to actually do it though. I'll look at those links ta.

kittendothroar

There_Goes_Trouble wrote: »

Thanks for the replies.

Voyager it's not about giving him a chance, I've know him 3 years so I know there is no physical attraction on my part. He's lovely, a really nice guy and I almost wish I did 'like' him but I don't and it wouldn't be fair to him to pretend otherwise.

I knew my man for longer than that..thinking he was nice but just not my type...but I took a chance when he asked, thought why the hell not had nothing else planned and we have been together properly since January, moved in together and May and are saving for our own house.

Amazing what can happen really....

There_Goes_Trouble

Thanks, I had a friend who had known her partner for years and didn't even like him at first! I know what you're saying, it's just not something I want with him.

Message sent, I just said I wasn't looking for anything more than friendship. Will wait and see what he says.

Hope I haven't spoiled the friendship we do have.

Takeaway_Addict

There_Goes_Trouble wrote: »

Thanks, I had a friend who had known her partner for years and didn't even like him at first! I know what you're saying, it's just not something I want with him.

Message sent, I just said I wasn't looking for anything more than friendship. Will wait and see what he says.

Hope I haven't spoiled the friendship we do have.

Not your fault if it spoils the relationship, would be the blokes if he takes it the wrong way

dandelionclock30

He shouldnt ask you again after you have told him that. If he does you will just have to say you are absolutley not interested and never will be and thats the end of the matter.
This reminds me of when I used to go to a nightclass with a friend and this awful man sideled up to me and asked if I wanted to go for a drink. I replied that i didnt and he had the cheek to then say why not? I said it was because I didnt want to and was busy anyway.
People generally know if someone likes them. i dont know how people can be mistaken but God loves a tryer.