How much board should I be paying?

candygirl

mikeandrach wrote: »

he can and will, he doesn't need me to charge him for the right to live in his family home

Awww bless his little cotton socks, n pity his future wife:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

*max*

I know I will going against the overwhelming grain here, but I have to say that not being charged rent/board (or whatever you want to call it) by your parents doth not a dosser make! It isn't a pre-requisite to being able to "survive in the real world" perfectly well. Each to their own. No need to jump on parents, laugh at them and predict a life of scrounge, poverty and financial ignorance for their offspring if they don't charge them board as soon as they get their first inkling of an income.

Soleil_lune

*max* wrote: »

I know I will going against the overwhelming grain here, but I have to say that not being charged rent/board (or whatever you want to call it) by your parents doth not a dosser make! It isn't a pre-requisite to being able to "survive in the real world" perfectly well. Each to their own. No need to jump on parents, laugh at them and predict a life of scrounge, poverty and financial ignorance for their offspring if they don't charge them board as soon as they get their first inkling of an income.

All-righty then! :cool:

If you read the posts from the poster (mich-rach) he/she is attacking people who DO charge their kids board money, as if they are being rotten to them/ treating them badly/being cruel/doing them a disservice etc.

Frankly, I think it's one of the worst mistakes you could make, not charging them SOMEthing. Doesn't even have to be a lot: even a fifth of their salary. Even if you CAN afford to not have anything off them; still have something. Why on earth WOULDN'T you?

liney

Now, now children...

southoftheriver

You're getting a bargain OP. 25% of your wage is very cheap for room and board. Maybe if you got rid of Sky tv it would cover the extra.

bagpussbear

I don't think the OP is being that unreasonable. Given they pay for all their food, and they are working as well as studying to better themselves to eventually get a good wage and move out, why wouldn't you as a parent want them help them as much as possible.

If I knew my child is saving up to move out of the home, then why charge them more so that ends up slowing that end goal down, surely? Unless the parents are in financial dire straits of course.

Don't get me wrong, I do agree with charging board, but it should be much less given they are your child and not a lodger.

OP, given this is your mum and you should keep relations good as much as you can, why not agree at £150 which was the lower figure your mum gave?

That's only £5 a week more which you could surely meet by getting a cheaper phone deal, moving down to the basic SKY package or indeed getting rid of it and having Freeview telly instead?

mikeandrach_2

its not priceless, its free

Soleil_lune

candygirl wrote: »

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Aww when my DD was 20 months old i was probably not wanting her to pay any board or leave home!!When she reached 19 n was a PITA, it was a little bit different:beer:

Agree. Just wait til her kids have left school and there aren't any tax credits?child benefit coming in. It'll be a different story then? You do know don't you mich-rach that when your kids leave school, you don't keep getting child benefit/child tax credits for them? Just checking.

Or are you going to say you don't GET child benefit or child tax credits?

lady1964

I think what the OP is paying is very reasonable and I agree with those who say give up the Sky if she can't afford to pay her mum an extra £10 per week, or increase the job hours.

My dd's paid board quite happily, we didn't take much of their salaries, just 15% and my youngest dd has just paid her first amount of board at 15%. She actually asked when we were going to start charging her, I think she felt that doing that makes her a fully paid up adult

Both my older two dd's were able to budget their money and save, one is in Australia for a year, the other rents a home with her boyfriend and both say having to pay board really helped them learn about money management and taught them that very little in life is free and are very grateful to us, youngest one feels the same.

OP, talk to your mum as adults, explain your outgoings/income and listen to what she has to say and come to an agreement with which you're both happy.

mumps

Soleil_lune wrote: »

Agree. Just wait til her kids have left school and there aren't any tax credits?child benefit coming in. It'll be a different story then? You do know don't you mich-rach that when your kids leave school, you don't keep getting child benefit/child tax credits for them? Just checking.

Or are you going to say you don't GET child benefit or child tax credits?

Well I am 60 and mine are all grown up, well one still at uni, and I have never taken money off them. The ones who are working are self sufficient, they saved what they could and two own their own houses, number 3 graduated last year and is looking at buying their own place soon. Oh I did get child benefit and got tax credits for the youngest, of course I knew it would stop but really child benefit of about £20 and tax credit of £10 went on pocket money and bus fares for him so when he left school I was quids in anyway as he paid for his own clothes, travel and some of his food. Different families do things in different way, whatever works for your family is good for your family. We aren't all the same.