Moral dilemma? Would like some input please

tryingtobethrifty

That's nice of you to want to replace the jewelry but honestly if I was your friend there's no way I would accept your money. Of course I'd be upset (for the lost sentimentally of the item) but these things happen and I'd rather have a friend than taking some money off you to get another piece of jewelry. Just my thoughts.

CustardAndPickles

I'd go along with the people who have suggested asking your friend what she'd like. You're going to be telling her what's happened anyway, so a meaningful apology and then a "what would you like me to do, this is option A, this is option B".

wezalmemunygon

If it's something of value then get her to claim for it on her insurance and offer to pay the excess.

philman

I'd say replacing it is pointless if the main value was sentimental.

Assuming you know your friend well, I'd take her out for something you know she'll enjoy. The theatre, a show, a meal. Something you know she'd like to say sorry and hopefully make her feel a bit better too.

tallgirld

Ask her what she wants. Similar replacement or money.

florere

wezalmemunygon wrote: »

If it's something of value then get her to claim for it on her insurance and offer to pay the excess.

Claiming on insurance doesn't always work, you loose your no-claims bonus, It could cost more long term than not claiming. You can't replace objects that have sentimental value, what does she want you to do, I suggest take her out and buy her something else that she likes. But before you do, walk your route each way and see if you can find it.

Norma_Desmond

Unfortunately the jewellery's gone for good.

I'd just reconcile myself with the fact that you were both careless - and that's the end of it.

Augustus_the_Strong

What a bunch of idiots. Neither of you should pay any money, but both should learn from the experience.

Gary_Bighitter

I would only consider the financial value because, as you acknowledge, sentimental value cannot be replaced. I would offer to pay half of this value as you are both equally at fault.

I would also watch the final episode of season 4 of Curb Your Enthusiasm as something remarkably similar happens!

sugarbaby125

Talk to your friend. Discuss the issue until she feels listened to and valued. Then you offer a solution. You will take her to buy another piece of jewellery. Try going to an Antique Fair together, as then she can choose a piece that is unique and will become special to her over the years.

You took responsibility for returning the original piece of jewellery to her, then unfortunately lost it, this is how you can make recompense and also maintain a good friendship.:j