Funeral attire- need help ASAP!

Moggins_2

I've decided to wear my black trousers with a dark purple vest
Top with a nice ruffle effect round the neck and a black cardigan. Had to go for heels in the end as trousers looked too long with my flats. I went past a funeral on Tuesday and saw someone going in in jeans so it does happen!

pollypenny

Your choice sounds fine, Moggins.

The acceptability of jeans could vary according to the family, though. I wouldn't see it as respectful if someone turned up to the funeral of one of my family in jeans.

POPPYOSCAR

Moggins wrote: »

I've decided to wear my black trousers with a dark purple vest
Top with a nice ruffle effect round the neck and a black cardigan. Had to go for heels in the end as trousers looked too long with my flats. I went past a funeral on Tuesday and saw someone going in in jeans so it does happen!

Yes it does.

I would rather someone in a smart pair of jeans etc. than a scruffy old suit with creased shirt and wonky tie for example!!

Anyway please come back after the funeral and let us know what everyone was wearing, it would be interesting to know.

Scrapaholic

If there was no request for people to wear a certain colour or bright clothes then I'd think that any dark colour would be fine. I understand that you wouldn't want to be disrespectful probably no one would have noticed if your jeans were smart black ones . My friend wore her bright red winter coat to her husbands funeral as it was her smartest coat . It didn't matter to anyone . Ten years ago a man wore a bright Hawaiian shirt to f.i.l's funeral . It was a hot day , everyone else was more soberly dressed and we thought , why couldn't he have just worn a plain shirt . I think that some things are just not appropriate wear for a funeral .I suppose no one can really tell people what to wear but of all the funerals I've been to I still remember that gaudy shirt !

AmyClark

I think your black, grey & white outfit sounds completely fine! To some previous posters saying that people of the elderly generation may find wearing anything but black disrespectful, not all elderly people are like that, my grandmother who's 87 years old, attended both my mother & fathers funerals wearing a pink coat & lilac trousers! My brother and I of course didn't have a problem with this as people are entitled to their own, my gran always said a funeral is celebrating someone's life (as they say in church/chapel or crematorium wherever the funeral may be). So I actually commend my grandmother for having the guts to follow what is said and not just go with the norm like other people do and wear black as they believe its the correct thing to do. So don't worry at all, everyone believes different things!

gyromain

Most of the posts in this thread are what to wear from the female perspective. I have question 'Is it OK to wear a dinner jacket to a funeral?' I have a black dinner jacket and trousers with no statin/ribbon trim - it looks like a black suit. I of course will be wearing a plain white shirt (ie not a dress shirt) and a normal black tie (ie not a bow tie). Any thoughts?

John_Pierpoint

In this day and age, I would just wear something sober plus a black tie.

WTFH

gyromain wrote: »

Most of the posts in this thread are what to wear from the female perspective. I have question 'Is it OK to wear a dinner jacket to a funeral?' I have a black dinner jacket and trousers with no statin/ribbon trim - it looks like a black suit. I of course will be wearing a plain white shirt (ie not a dress shirt) and a normal black tie (ie not a bow tie). Any thoughts?

Yes, that would be fine. I've seen men at funerals with navy/dark blue jackets.
Plain white shirt, black tie are the main bits, the rest is best if as dark as possible.

madbadrob

I dont see why anyone has to wear black at a funeral. The last one I attended specifically stated for the men to wear the football shirt of the team that they support and the women if they had one to do the same. In no way was anyone to wear black. A funeral is a celebration of life and a chance to say goodbye. I would never wear jeans though

Rob