Funeral attire- need help ASAP!

POPPYOSCAR

Whenever I wear black to a funeral now I feel a bit out of place as the trend is to not wear it so much I find.

I do not think it matters what you wear as long as you look smart and respectful.

If you want to wear black I see nothing wrong with black jeans teamed with a smart top.

Frith

I'm going to a funeral on Thursday as well (my aunty's husband). I am wearing my only smart pair of trousers (grey Oasis from a charity shop 7 years ago) and a grey cardigan. Just bought a crisp new (ish) T shirt from a charity shop to go with it.

I have no memory at all of what people wore to my grandparent's funerals so I think it probably does not matter too much.

fed_up_and_stressed

Personally I find wearing jeans to a funeral disrepectful especially for funerals of older people.

Other mourners may be upset by other people wearing jeans as they may feel the deceased person has been slighted by the mourners "not making an effort" ... I know this comment was made towards members of hubby's family at a funeral we attended...and still gets mentioned years later.

Torry_Quine

jacques_chirac wrote: »

I would never wear jeans to a funeral, it comes across as disrespectful. Asda sell basic black trousers for less than £10.

I have to agree here.

Every funeral I've been to unless asked otherwise, people have been in dark or black clothes.

Nicki

Fluff15 wrote: »

The supermarkets will definitely have a plain black/dark coloured dress in stock. You can always click and collect from Asda and Tesco, if you can make a trip over the next couple of days and don't find anything tonight.

Keep the label on the dress, make sure you don't get make-up or deodorant marks on it, and return the next day and say it didn't fit!

I bought a dress this year and wore it for our wedding anniversary to a nice restaurant. After a couple of hours it started to stink of stale BO and a perfume that wasn't mine. Some filthy dishonest skank had done just what you suggested. Not sure why I or anyone else should pay full price to wear your unwashed secondhand clothes.

OP as others have said I wouldn't wear jeans. Something smarter even if not black or dark coloured would be better. Ideally something smarter than jeans which can be worn with the black jumper to save some pennies.

lostinrates

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I have to agree here.

Every funeral I've been to unless asked otherwise, people have been in dark or black clothes.

I think any sober clothing is acceptable.

I always think funerals are for the living.

The most important thing is to be in communication with your family, in this case I'd talk to your mil and partner's grandmother and take advice. They know the aunt and how jeans will be seen.

Also there is wearing jeans and 'wearing jeans'.. Properly dark black jeans with a well pressed shirt, smart, dark jacket or dark jumper and say a black silk scarf, are very differed to grey washed denim and a sweat shirt. Ideal, perhaps not. But in this case I think I'd rather have you there than not. Speak to you mil, take her guidance.

midnightraven3

asda have black trousers for £6
http://direct.asda.com/george/womens-trousers/bi-stretch-trousers/G003291019,default,pd.html

i would rather buy those than risk feeling uncomfortable wondering if was correctly dressed

busiscoming2

I'd say if your black jeans are very smart then wear them rather than not go.

It seems to me that most people wear black/navy etc to funerals but most of the ones I seem to have been to recently have a theme of the deceased's favourite colour worn in the form of a blouse, scarf or tie.

lostinrates

Fluff15 wrote: »

The supermarkets will definitely have a plain black/dark coloured dress in stock. You can always click and collect from Asda and Tesco, if you can make a trip over the next couple of days and don't find anything tonight.

Keep the label on the dress, make sure you don't get make-up or deodorant marks on it, and return the next day and say it didn't fit!

Why? This is dishonest. Would that really honour someone's memory better than a pair of black jeans?

pukkamum

My dh's aunty showed up at his gramps funeral in a micro mini skirt a black see-through blouse unbottoned practically to the navel with a red lacy bra clearly on show.
Now that's what I call inappropriate.