Does it make parents look better' if their child goes to university?

Frith

Dunroamin wrote: »

Your choice of universities would be quite curtailed if you offered resits, particularly as the grades were so poor the first time round and with no reason. You'd get in somewhere but you wouldn't have unlimited choice.

I didn't do re-sits but I know people who did who got into my University. I presumed if you re-took all your A levels you just put those new results on the UCAS form and didn't mention the others??

In response to earlier comments on polytechnics, I did my first degree at a "good" university then my second at an old poly and the teaching was miles better at the poly and the course much better organised!

Just remembered an ex boyfriend of mine got into uni as a mature student with just an E at A level. Was perhaps not the most exciting uni or course in the world, though.

Soleil_lune

Mrs_Ryan wrote: »

My Mum pushed me into going to uni, to do a worthless degree that I didn't want to do, just so she could brag to the neighbours that I was at uni. When I got a full time job that I loved in the holidays and said to her I would rather stay working there than have to go back, she told me I either went back to uni or I could get out of the house. So I had to go back, I failed second year and had a nervous breakdown. She then pushed me to go and do my nurse training and again bragged to all the neighbours, again I had a breakdown as I was working over 70 hours a week, and again I failed. Luckily I got a job as an HCA so she could continue bragging that I had 'a nursing job' it doesn't look like I'm going to be ready to go back to uni for a long time as I'm off with work related stress at the minute but now shes trying to suggest that I go and do teaching!! I know she loves me but it's all about appearances with her and I do feel a little resentful that if she'd let me do the GNVQ and HND I wanted instead of forcing me to do A-Levels and a degree I didn't want to do because she doesn't believe in GNVQ's or HND's I might be a bit more settled...

Oh I am so sorry to hear this Mrs Ryan This neighbour of mine who gossips to anyone who will listen, sounds JUST like your mother.

I just hope that her daughter will be OK.

Seems like some people DO think that a child going to uni is the be-all and end-all!

Poppy9

Frith wrote: »

I didn't do re-sits but I know people who did who got into my University. I presumed if you re-took all your A levels you just put those new results on the UCAS form and didn't mention the others??

You now either apply with your grades or your teachers submit your predicted grades to UCAS directly.

Shelldean

SmallL wrote: »

What is the degree? The content might have good transferable skills or opportunities to take skill-based modules.

It's a media degree.

edited to add...

maybe mickey mouse was the wrong phase, I just feel he'll do equally as well in this field w/o the need to get in debt to obtain a degree.
I hate the thought of the huge debt he will obtain when I feel in HIS case it is avoidable.

Shelldean

must confess to bragging about my DD who is just starting 3rd year at uni...... BUT I brag equally about DS2 and his apprenticeship.... also bragged about DS1 and his AS level results BBC ( if you're interested LOL)

gocurlygirl

As a teenager I followed my dream and went into nursing.Both my children worked hard and went to uni (one is still there)and we worked extra hours to help support them.at one point I was sure that one wanted to drop out and do something else-all I wanted was for them to be happy and able to make choices in life and would have happily accepted their choices.The cost and debts are not what I would have chosen,school career talks seemed to have sent many of their peers on the same route and few seem to have related jobs now.
I am proud of my children but would be proud whatever job they do as long as they work and are honest.
Please don`t underestimate the work involved for the students it is not as easy as has been suggested by some

sukysue

I don't think like that at all, in my eyes , I wanted my dds to go to uni to experience what I was never able to . Almost .....that I feel as if it is the best I can do for them as a mum. I don't know if that is how others feel?Nothing to do with them and their results really more to do with me wanting to give them the chance I never had iyswim!

gocurlygirl

sukysue wrote: »

I don't think like that at all, in my eyes , I wanted my dds to go to uni to experience what I was never able to . Almost .....that I feel as if it is the best I can do for them as a mum. I don't know if that is how others feel?Nothing to do with them and their results really more to do with me wanting to give them the chance I never had iyswim!

You said it very well and I agree 100%

Person_one

Dunroamin wrote: »

Oh no she isn't!;)

At least you can string a sentence together though!

Person_one

poet123 wrote: »

It really doesn't, not today I am afraid. Maybe 20 years ago but not now.

It still does I think, just in a slightly different way. Because so many graduates are struggling to find work now, they are competing for jobs that were previously taken up by school leavers or much less 'qualified' people. Loads of TAs, HCAs and so on have relevant degrees these days.