Advice needed...marriage breakdown / baby / money!

Treevo

heyboo wrote: »

OK, I should clarify...he was just being an [EMAIL="a@sehole"]a@sehole[/EMAIL]! I didn't feel intimidated - he was gloating, sneering, mocking me.

Yes, if he'd lost his rag and I was worried then it would be different.

But if this is what he did to his ex then it puts a different spin on things.

heyboo

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moneysniffer

heyboo wrote: »

I've already asked the agents if terminating the contract is an option...it's not and he's only been in for 4 weeks! I've been a tenant and it's not a nice thing to do anyway..

A lot of 12 month contracts have a 6 month break clause which either party can invoke (I believe?). Maybe worth finding out if the agents have placed such a clause in the contract, although not ideal it certainly shortens the timescales.

heyboo

Thanks again everyone.

I've had a decent night's sleep (LO has usefully started sleeping through again) so thinking a little more clearly.

I only spoke to OH briefly this morning just to say (in a very calm way) that although I couldn't stop him leaving if that's what his heart is set on that he won't be forcing me and LO out of our home. Then he left! Ho hum...

Anyway, I've spent a little time on the tax credits calculator inputting different scenarios and am relieved that we won't be destitute if the separation goes ahead. There are some suitable houses in my price range in and around my home town so between my salary, child benefits, CM, CTC and hopefully some help from my parents with childcare I will be able to cobble through.

Obviously I'm gutted about the separation - more for DS than anything. I'm so disappointed in OH - he has a DD from a previous relationship and has had an awful time with his ex and seems to experience a great deal of guilt surrounding the situation - so why walk away from another child so easily. Not painting him in a very good light here am I?
We have been fighting a lot recently - he's been working ridiculous hours and I'm therefore picking up the slack at home to make up for it so we're both shattered and feeling hard done by! But I thought we were able to talk through it. We've been through so many tough times in our 8 years together that I thought it would take more than this to break us.

Jenny484

Do you know for certain he is working all of these hours or could he be seeing someone else?