Lenny v the girls (+ Z, lmw and James) challenge lose the fat and the debt

Toto

Oh weller, that's just awful. I'm so very sorry this has happened to you. Loads of love to you all xx

postingalwaysposting

weller ~ for you http://www.indigo.org/rainbowbridge_ver2.html it will make you cry though but it may help you deal with it and maybe sam too?

ZTD

Snaggles wrote: »

Keren, I'm a great believer in not doing things in the heat of the moment. Sometimes I think if you storm out in anger, when you calm down you can feel full of regret, and end up going back, tail between your legs, which would just re-enforce all your negative feelings about yourself. Choose a time when you are calm and determined, make the decision, and if you decide you want to leave, then go, and don't look back. If you need to talk anything through, we're here to listen.

Sometimes though, the decision is already made, and you need the heat of the moment to "pull the trigger" as they say.

That I think was the case here.

ZTD

Toto wrote: »

Would you believe me if I told you this house is in one of the best areas in nashville, brad paisley lives in the same road.

Brad Paisley? Inventor of the Paisley Tie?

Cool... :cool:

ZTD

elantan wrote: »

karen and tig what can i say

Keren even...

elantan wrote: »

men bah (except for the sexy ones on here that is hi z missing you cutie)

Missing you too Gorgeous.

ZTD

sammy115 wrote: »

On a serious note, no laughing at this. I am suffering from serious serious wind.. Do you think it may be the slimfast :rotfl: .

Yes, it is notorious for it.

sammy115 wrote: »

I also seem to be suffering from a bad back in the morning (not a bad back as such but an aching around the base of my back and a feeling like I have an iron girder around my stomach). Could this be a water infection do you think?

Could be. Could also be constipation if you're not drinking enough with it.

Burlesque_Babe

so sorry Weller. They are scum.

ZTD

weller711 wrote: »

Its not - I have just got back from vets having to hold my baby Oscar whilst he was put to sleep. Am in bits, Andy too and Sam confused. Can't talk. Will post later or tomorrow.

I'm really, really sorry to hear that. Tell the police - if they get caught, it'll be something else to charge them with, and maybe they will get an appropiate punishment for it.

ZTD

Toto wrote: »

Keren, no one has the right to say those things to you. Is he bloody mr playboy?

Well Mr Playboy is no oil painting either...

Toto wrote: »

To be honest I'm not so bothered about what he thinks, I'm worried about what's happening to your confidence. To be honest it seems to me as if this man has some confidence issues himself and the only way he can feel better is by having you believe that he is better than you, you can't manage without him, no one else would want you etc etc.

Hear hear.

Toto wrote: »

This isn't a reflection on you, it's how he feels about himself, but of course he is projecting it onto you (my dad made me go and do a proper degree, to get a proper job in psychology in case you wonder where the psych-babble comes from... didn't work, graduated then went back to music... anyway I digress).

But shows you have brains as well as beauty - DD has a good passion wife there doesn't he?

Toto wrote: »

I seriously suspect that your OH is terrified of being alone, he probably feels no one else will have him, that he's aging, and all of the rest of it. Look at it logically, why would anyone who felt they were worthy of a wonderful relationship with miss perfect be in a relationship with someone (they say) they think so little of? I don't doubt for one second that your OH sees you do things he wishes he had the strength to get up and do for himself, you have sorted out your debt, stood up and won against a nasty bully, have a nice home, working for yourself, in a nutshell you are really in control of your life and your future... is he?

I also believe that if you do stand up and tell him you feel you are worth more than the treatment he is giving you, he'll huff and puff, insult you, tell you you'll end up alone and in the gutter, you're lucky to have him etc. He'll storm off, then after a few days, he'll be crawling back. Because he needs you an awful lot more than you need him, I believe that and so do you deep down under the damaged self esteem.

I agree 100% with everything you've said here. There's still time for you to change your mind if that makes you nervous.

Toto wrote: »

PM me, phone me, I'm here all day, don't do this alone I'm here for you because I think you're really special and I am honoured to have you as a friend.

That's a lovely gesture Toto. Along with the drum-kit too. Your hubby is a very lucky man - more than he will ever know.

peluja

weller711 wrote: »

Its not - I have just got back from vets having to hold my baby Oscar whilst he was put to sleep. Am in bits, Andy too and Sam confused. Can't talk. Will post later or tomorrow.

Weller,

So sorry to hear this! Let's hope the police catch the barstewards who have caused you this grief.

Take Care

Pel.