This Time I'm Really Going To Do It

apple_muncher

It sounds like you got loads done, Watty. Maybe not what you had originally planned, but three reports were finished. With plans to do the last two too. Hope you get lots of purrs and cuddles from kitty.

Watty1

This was a really brave post. Thank you. Hang in there too. And well done for speaking up at work. I'm self employed so I can hide away easily.....you did really well there. It is hard ...maybe we should make a deal to post daily ....
xx

ajmoney wrote: »

Hi Watty, it is great to see you back on here. It is very easy for me to say please don't be a stranger when you are struggling but as I have been doing the same thing for months I would be a hypocrite. Many times I have written a post on my thread more for my own sake trying to put down why I am have been struggling but delete it because it sounds stupid. (I was going to send this as a pm but decided to be brave), I have taken steps at work now to tell people that I am struggling and that I may not be in as much while I try to get the right balance but it is hard to do. I had a strange episode last week which I am seeing the doctors about but I have taken it as a warning sign from my body that I need to take care of myself a lot more. It might seem tough addressing things that you have done recently but at least you are taking steps to rectify them now.

Looking forward to keeping up with your news and updates, especially the animal related ones

Watty1

Once feral kitty not so keen on the cuddles lark but she is very good company as she is usually close by if the dog is not about. We have put a child gate on the office and stairs so she has escape routes from him but she usually wants to be in the same room as me. Love her.


Last two reports done. One glass of wine drunk. That may have been a mistake!! Not getting going this morning....

apple_muncher wrote: »

It sounds like you got loads done, Watty. Maybe not what you had originally planned, but three reports were finished. With plans to do the last two too. Hope you get lots of purrs and cuddles from kitty.

Karmacat

hiddenshadow wrote: »

Sending good vibes your way, Watty, I know how challenging it is when everything feels overwhelming and insurmountable.

Similar to the debt payment motto of every 1p paid off is 1p that will never charge interest again...every bit of work done, however small, is progress towards all of it being done.

I'm loving this :j

Watty1 wrote: »

thanks hiddenshadow. A good point. Didn't get the four reports done as had a work related call from the Police and ended up being interviewed over phone in afternoon. Then had to write a report. That done I've asked a colleague to review the report ...and ... cancelled todays dental appointment as I felt I was just getting stressed over work. Today I've managed a fair chunk and written two of the reports. Just popped to the village for a mini bottle of wine which I am promising myself if I finish the last two reports this evening. I don't usually drink so ..... one glass of wine will go to my head I am sure not sure what that will do for my sleep but felt I needed some kind of a reward! now to get on with those last 2 files

Oh good grief, the format necessary for police interviews/ reports can be horrendous. Good for you for managing to do *any* of the reports after that. And as for a mini bottle of wine yes yes yes

ajmoney wrote: »

Hi Watty, it is great to see you back on here. It is very easy for me to say please don't be a stranger when you are struggling but as I have been doing the same thing for months I would be a hypocrite. Many times I have written a post on my thread more for my own sake trying to put down why I am have been struggling but delete it because it sounds stupid. (I was going to send this as a pm but decided to be brave), I have taken steps at work now to tell people that I am struggling and that I may not be in as much while I try to get the right balance but it is hard to do. I had a strange episode last week which I am seeing the doctors about but I have taken it as a warning sign from my body that I need to take care of myself a lot more. It might seem tough addressing things that you have done recently but at least you are taking steps to rectify them now.

That *is* a brave post, and yes, strange episodes can often be warnings from our bodies, because we don't listen enough. I'm including myself in that.

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smallholdingsister

Hey Watty. How is it going with your inherited house?

Watty1

smallholdingsister wrote: »

Hey Watty. How is it going with your inherited house?

I think you mean Mr Watty's dad's place yes? Dad is still in respite home and we have so far convinced "them powers wot be" that dad is going to come home. Dad thinks he is when we have changed the stair lift. Not sure quite how he arrived at this but hey ho. We presume the next steps are for the house to be assessed to see if the downstairs can be adapted for him but it was so exhausting for us last time that we are leaving the system to drive that forwards rather than us. We know if we push it, we can make it happen but then we take the responsibility on ourselves and really we are so worn out that we both feel that Dad could outlive us. I know that it sounds hard but if dad wants to come home he needs to engage with his physical therapy rather than refusing it. And if he does that we will make the rest happen but there is no way we can exhaust ourselves anymore. I actually think the stress of that would drive us apart. I think Mr Watty is resigned to the fact that long term we will just sell the house to pay for dad's care (although we will fight that under the 117 care order dad has if we can but now things are physical as dad will not do the physical therapy to get strong enough to get out of bed, having got so weak when sedated because the general hospital could not cope with his mental illness. But now it is physical not mental so little hope of winning under 117 as things stand so really not sure if we can muster the energy to battle that one).

smallholdingsister

No. Sorry. Didn't your neighbour leave you a house? Or wrong person?

themadvix

The rigmarole with Mr Watty's dad's house sounds utterly exhausting - definitely a good call to let things go at their own pace/a pace that you can manage.

Kitty sounds like she's a great companion now

apple_muncher

Just wanted to mention:

We moved mum in to a care home in April. It is a great place, very dementia friendly. Cheaper by far than other places we had looked at (and rejected as 'no way are we letting our mum live there') but still costing an arm and a leg. We have bought a 'plan', basically an annuity that guarantees mum's costs for life. Obviously, her pension goes towards costs too. Anyhow, just thought it might be worth a look. I can honestly say that the peace of mind it brought us is priceless. (We used a company called Eldercare). Don't know anything about the 117 care order, so this may not be relevant - ignore if you need to!

ps I really do not think that you and Mr W should be considering looking after Mr W Senior, as it would destroy your health (mental and physical).

Pps As ever, feel free to ignore xx

ajmoney

Watty1 wrote: »

This was a really brave post. Thank you. Hang in there too. And well done for speaking up at work. I'm self employed so I can hide away easily.....you did really well there. It is hard ...maybe we should make a deal to post daily ....
xx

Karmacat wrote: »

That *is* a brave post, and yes, strange episodes can often be warnings from our bodies, because we don't listen enough. I'm including myself in that.Save

I don't believe it was particularly brave, however I have taken the plunge on my thread this evening which definitely is.

I will try to post daily.