Finding Clothes for a larger 11 year old

fireyfirenze

Gigglepig wrote: »

Sorry to be blunt OP but if your daughter is so overweight already at age 11 that you have difficulty finding suitable clothing, well, I would focus my time, attention and money on dealing with that problem rather than smoothing over it by buying a new wardrobe.

Instead of taking yourself and your daughter to the shops, for the same money you could plan several high energy family outings?

the OP has already said in her post that she knows her daughter is overweight and they are doing something about it. your comment about 'high-energy days out' is a bit pointless as a few days out isn't going to help with the fact that she needs clothes NOW.

victory

Notsosharp wrote: »

My DD is 11 now and I will admit that she is overweight.

It's something we are doing something about, not by going on a diet as such but just by cutting out the junk and carp.

In the meantime is there anywhere I could get clothes for her that fit the bigger girl? I've tried places like Next etc but they just don't seem to consider that girls of that age may be developing breasts (such as my DD is) and as such things that fit everywhere else are too tight around her chest.

Me and my DD are getting increasingly frustrated; trousers are not much of an issue because she doesn't mind wearing leggings but it's tops that are causing the real problems.

At the moment I am buying three of everything that fits but she also wants to be fashionable.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated, thank you!

BHS do a generous size section ...

gingin_2

Gigglepig wrote: »

Sorry to be blunt OP but if your daughter is so overweight already at age 11 that you have difficulty finding suitable clothing, well, I would focus my time, attention and money on dealing with that problem rather than smoothing over it by buying a new wardrobe.

Instead of taking yourself and your daughter to the shops, for the same money you could plan several high energy family outings?

"It's something we are doing something about, not by going on a diet as such but just by cutting out the junk and carp."

OP is aware and has already said above.

Who said she's smoothing things over by buying a new wardrobe? Children grow, children need new clothes, especially now, as we are about to change seasons.


Yours is a pretty mean spirited post.

I second H and M, OP, I love some of their older girls fashions. They had some lovely long but trendy/funky jumpers that would look really good over leggings.

victory

Gigglepig wrote: »

Sorry to be blunt OP but if your daughter is so overweight already at age 11 that you have difficulty finding suitable clothing, well, I would focus my time, attention and money on dealing with that problem rather than smoothing over it by buying a new wardrobe.

Instead of taking yourself and your daughter to the shops, for the same money you could plan several high energy family outings?

The thread is not about how can I get my DD to loose weight? is it, the thread is about where to buy clothes for her that will fit and she will like, your post is unnecesary.

pingufan

Yes, I have a DD age 11 with exactly the same problem. She's a big girl, already 5ft and I find she fits an adult size 12 perfectly so simply buy that. Many of the teenage ranges look fine on her and fit well

Gigglepig

fireyfirenze wrote: »

the OP has already said in her post that she knows her daughter is overweight and they are doing something about it. your comment about 'high-energy days out' is a bit pointless as a few days out isn't going to help with the fact that she needs clothes NOW.

Who said anything about a FEW days out? Obviously habits will need to change, and spending weekends for example hiking instead of shopping could be a start. Signing up for plenty of after school activities and changing to a healthier diet could also be costly, but if there is a weight issue money would better spent dealing with that than on clothes.
if the family changes their diet and activity levels right now, it is very possible to drop a dress size (and presumably fit into existing clothes) in a few weeks. ( The weight loss would then probably be slower after a while. )
If children's clothing does not fit, it sounds like the girl is more than a tad overweight - buying a new wardrobe would not be a priority if it were me, and I don't think it sends the right signals to facilitate the problem rather than deal with it. Others may be of a different opinion, this is mine. If money is no object perhaps things are different, but if you need to budget I would prioritise spending on activities and healthy food rather than wardrobe.

aliasojo

Gigglepig wrote: »

Sorry to be blunt OP but if your daughter is so overweight already at age 11 that you have difficulty finding suitable clothing, well, I would focus my time, attention and money on dealing with that problem rather than smoothing over it by buying a new wardrobe.

Instead of taking yourself and your daughter to the shops, for the same money you could plan several high energy family outings?

Just to clarify...you do know your opinion about the child's weight wasn't asked for?

I'm not sure if you got confused about the actual topic or you just didn't care and thought your opinion was important enough to warrant posting, despite it not being relevant to the question that was actually asked?

butler_helen

pingufan wrote: »

Yes, I have a DD age 11 with exactly the same problem. She's a big girl, already 5ft and I find she fits an adult size 12 perfectly so simply buy that. Many of the teenage ranges look fine on her and fit well

I grew to 5ft7 by the start of primary, I was a size 12 and now I'm 5ft9 and a size 16 so not too much changed.

I recall liking m&s clothes, Levi jeans (with the size on the back hidden) and Dorothy Perkins - they have some great basics!

Now I stear clear of places like hollister and jack wills as omg they cut small and are a waste of money. However when I was younger I wanted those shops to desperately fit. OP sounds like you're supporting your daughter more than my mum did, making the effort to find nice clothes regardless of size is really important part of that support

Spendless

Gigglepig - What do you want her to wear during these few weeks whilst she loses weight if her current clothes don't fit.:huh:

Victory - I thought bhs generous fit was just school uniform? Do they do other clothes in this too?

pops5588

Gigglepig wrote: »

...I would prioritise spending on activities and healthy food rather than wardrobe.

...so in the meantime she is meant to walk around in clothes that don't fit?! How is making her feel self-conscious about how she looks in public going to help her? You're only thinking about the physical implications of her daughter being "overweight", not about the emotional and psychological side of it. This part of her also needs protecting and looking after!

Anyway, OP I have always found New Look to be quite good in terms of bridging the gap between being a child and beginning to develop. They do a good 9-15 range and my little sister used to be able to find plenty there.