Does your child ever just get on your nerves?

victory

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

Longer for my DS. He broke up 19th July, goes back 10th Sept!

Oh wow I salute your patience:T

quidsy

Mine broke up 12th & goes back 5th so I know how you feel.

fabforty

Thank you all for the replies, the advice and the lack of judgemental comments. It's nice to know that this is normal. Don't get me wrong, I always knew that children could push your buttons on occasions, but I never expected to feel so anti my own child. It's almost a case of ' I love him but I don't like him much at the moment' and that just sounds awful and wrong. He usually makes me laugh but it's all just grating at the moment. I take him out every day, but even that has become a battle. I was literally dragging him out of the door yesterday, and then he didn't want to come in when we got home, so then I was dragging him back in. He wanted to go on the swings (which he usually loves), as soon as he was on it, he wanted to get off, then screamed to get back on.

To answer a few questions, he has all of his teeth and as far as I can tell he isn't ill - no temperature or runny poo, and he is eating as normal. He starts nursery January and God I can't wait. I planned to send him in September, but we are still getting to grips with potty training and I want that out of the way before he starts.

I probably just need a break and to remind myself how lucky I am to be a mum **and breath**.

bargainbetty

I don't have them myself, so can cheerfully say that pretty much every kid gets annoying after a while. Sorry, I have many nieces and nephews and godchildren that I would walk through fire for, but giving them back is always nice.

For what it is worth, a friend of mine had a particularly troublesome toddler. I called him to ask how things were, and how she was doing. 'Oh, she's sitting in the corner, eyes flashing, banging her scaly little tail on the floor'. He still calls her Spawn now.

quidsy

My friend calls her kid Asbo, he is the same age as yours & if he can be awkward & irritating, he will but when he is sweet, boy he is forgiven.

Errata

It's almost a case of ' I love him but I don't like him much at the moment' and that just sounds awful and wrong.

A parent who never dislikes their child on occasion will one day have a very rude awakening.

sulkisu

I could have written your post myself. DS1 is a about the same age as your son and has been acting like a total little S.H.1.T for the past couple of days. It happens and eventually it will pass. You sound like a sensible, caring, loving mother, so don't beat yourself up over it - you just need to find a way to get through it. It sounds like you just need a bit of a break, even if it's just for a few hours.

moomoomama27

Yes! Not to the point of wanting to give them away, well actually......

Iam a patient person, love spending time with my children, but some days I find them challenging, just because! Since parenting a difficult teen I've found my patience with the younger ones is much improved! However the past 6 months I would gladly have sent the teen to boarding school!

codemonkey

fabforty wrote: »

I probably just need a break and to remind myself how lucky I am to be a mum **and breath**.

I think every parent, well the ones without live in nannies, who have to put up with the day to day stuff, feels this way, especially with toddlers. I'm reliably assured by my friends with teenagers that the easier they are as toddlers, the worse they are as teenagers so that's maybe something to bear in mind.

The last thing you said struck a chord with me, as I am desperate to be a mum and we've been trying to conceive for over 3 years with no luck and are probably facing a lot of very invasive and expensive procedures to get there. You are so very lucky to be a mum, no matter how much he drives you nuts, you still get to be his mummy. This isn't meant as a "well I can't do it so you should feel bad for the way you're feeling" because you absolutely shouldn't. I expect if I ever am lucky enough to be a mum, no doubt my kids will drive me crazy to the point where I'll want to hand them over to the next person who walks throngh the door. I just mean it as a gentle reminder that you are lucky even if it doesn't always feel like that and maybe you can use it next time you feel like killing him.

Octobergirl

Hate to be the bearer of bad news, but I found it even worse when my boy turned 4..... A heady mixture of hormones and newfound confidence at nursery meant he was Constantly pushing boundries with bigger and better tantrums:eek:

The threat in this house is that I will take them to the nearby Dogs'Trust and swap them for a puppy;)