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Wife being bullied at work
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ACAS has some useful guidelines.
One persons bullying is another's banter.
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it really is a difficult situation.ACAS has some useful guidelines.
One persons bullying is another's banter.
Not an easy situation.
I've worked in offices for over 30 years and I have noticed that it takes a while to realise someone is being bullied as often the bully is quite discreet in the little comments they make as they often do it with a patronising smile and tell others they are acting with the best of intentions and just enforcing rules.
I have also seen the most nasty, b!tchy person go running to the boss in floods of tears, send solicitor's letters to a colleague etc. complaining of being bullied when the only person at fault is them.
~Laugh and the world laughs with you, weep and you weep alone.~:)
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it really is a difficult situation.
I've worked in offices for over 30 years and I have noticed that it takes a while to realise someone is being bullied as often the bully is quite discreet in the little comments they make as they often do it with a patronising smile and tell others they are acting with the best of intentions and just enforcing rules.
Totally agree with this. The boss might feel friendly enough (although it is totally inappropriate) to banter about the size of her bump, for example if a friend said to you, "Bloody hell you're huge", or similar.
I think if it were really malicious, she'd be saying things behind your wife's back, the little smirks, looks, really subtle comments but full of meaning and as sharp as daggers. I would have your wife say something gently to the boss, pretty innocuous, maybe, "Do you really think I'm that big?" And I'd say you'd be able to gauge what the boss actually thinks/means from her response.
Even if she does feel friendly enough to say such things, it is a workplace and she really shouldn't be saying it, but maybe if your wife can clear up whether it's meant to be nasty/bantering may help her relax.0 -
This calls for the "I beg your pardon" line, when something is next said like this
Should make the person recall and think about what it is their saying, always remember a personnel type manager telling me to use it in this kind of instance
Awful thing to say to someone knowingly expecting a baby0
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