Husband sole trader going down with dementia

colino

Unfortunately it sounds as if the time for a Lasting Power of Attorney (which your husband would have set up) has passed and you will have to apply, sooner than later, to the Court of Protection to become his Deputy. Don't wait for the CT, speak to someone from Age Concern or The Alzheimers Society now.

worried48

Well, the strange thing is that for the past week or so he has been completely back to normal. Still no CT scan (so much for urgent!) and still no answers, and of course it might happen again. He won't accept what has happened, which doesn't help with future planning.

paddyrg

Well, that's good - at least he's back to normal for the time being. This is the time to get affairs in order. Get that Lasting Power of Attorney sorted NOW and explain to him you'll only exercise it if he scares you like that again...

Savvy_Sue

I don't know if it helps, but I've just found that you can create an LPA online - you will still have to download it, print it and get it witnessed, but the actual process of filling in the blanks was fairly painless.

Of course if he's denying that anything happened, or thinks that you are just after his money, he may not respond well to the suggestion, but maybe if you did one of your own and tried to show him the advantages if YOU were incapacitated it would help?

gwynlas

Please G**gle TIAs Transient Ischaemic Attacks as this is what might be affecting your husband. My uncle had them for a number of years. Whilst he is in a well period you must get him to consider retiring and passing on business knowledge to you. As his wife you would automatically inherit but it might be more appropriate for you both to make wills detailing everything and also setting up LPA to take effect when needed.

doinkthemonkee

I know this may sound really odd - but has he been checked for a UTI?

jackyann

Definitely get help from the Alzheimer's Society or any similar local organisation (they will help with other kinds of dementia) - ask the GP / practice nurse who to contact.
I suggest that you consider a notice on the website / answerphone explaining that you will be dealing with enquiries asap, but there will be a delay because of "illness".
I would also explain to the bank, who are usually sympathetic.

poet123

Dementia rarely comes on so quickly, far more likely to be a stroke or even a Brain Tumour I am afraid.

Savvy_Sue

jackyann wrote: »

I would also explain to the bank, who are usually sympathetic.

TBH that's not necessarily the case: if until now they have only spoken to the OP if her husband authorises it first then it seems to me far more likely that they will freeze the account if they suspect he lacks capacity to give that authorisation.

jackyann

I'm sorry to hear that Sue, and bow to your knowledge from another PoV. That means all the more reason to get in touch with the Alzheimer's Society and local specialist nurses (who can help).
Dementia can be a symptom of other diseases as well as a type of disease. It does sound as if this man is getting the care he needs, but OP, I urge you to mobilise friends & family as both of you need support and you need to keep a close eye on your husband.