Have you ever left a relationship, even though you loved the other person?

themull1

Yes, i was heartbroken, but i got over it.

FopMistress

louby_lou wrote: »

I'm doing this now. To make matters worse we are married, but for less than a year and if I'm brutally honest I think the marriage sort of hid the problems we were having because we were so busy. We too were together for nearly 15 years (literally half of both of our lives) so I don't know who I am as a single adult either, I hope to find out.

Don't do what I did and ignore problems hoping they will go away or that the other person will change. They won't, and they shouldn't have to as long as they're not abusive or mean. Everyone has a right to be happy as the person they are.

I'm a co-dependent and sacrificed my friends, hobbies and interests in favour of keeping the relationship going. I really, really regret that now, but am trying to make progress in repairing old friendships and looking forward to starting new ones.

I long to be happy again but now realise I must be happy alone before I can be with anyone else, much less rely on someone else for my own happiness. I hope by the time I am 30 next year I will be living a very different (single) life. Good luck.:o

Well done :TI'm in a similar place. I was with my husband for a total of 15 years. It ended 3 weeks ago and while I'm still finding my feet - and what I want and who I am after 15 years - I've been unanimously told by all my friends and family that I'm much happier in myself. I spent a long time thinking I was the total cause of my relationship not working but it's only now that I see that he was often controlling, manipulative, emotionally abusive and had anger issues he refused to address even though I begged him to. In short, the man I married left the relationship a very long time ago.

Life is too short frankly. I now feel I can be who I want to be without having to tiptoe about. Change is scary but staying in a situation that is unhealthy is so much worse. I wish you the very best of luck.

louby_lou

Thanks FopMistress - here's to the rest of our soon to be very happy lives! :beer: