Was I over reacting ?

blinkingbank!

My DS WAS trying to help, he didnt hold her head under the water for the fun of it, he freaks out at the smallest things and DO NOT blame him 1 bit, didnt shout at him or nothing. Thanks again for the replies

Bun

Definitely not over-reacting, but as somebody said, your son was trying to help but actually adding to the problem. You should be very proud of him for reacting like that.Maybe praise him for helping and do a roleplay next time you are in the pool as to how the situation could be repeated - ie he shouts for the nearest adult, and maybe when she's surfaced just 'guide' her to the side. The swimming session we go to tells them to swim to the side if they fall in etc, so having something in place may take some of the panic away.

Your friend should respect your wishes, and if she keeps criticising I'd become very busy and unable to visit for a while, which will give you some space.

rio

You were definately not overeacting - what if she had fallen awkwardly or banged her head, the consequences could have been horrifying, No one of any age should be thrown or pushed into a pool regardless of how competent they are in water - any lifeguard or swimming instructor will tell you that.

ailuro2

If it had ended in tragedy would she have thought you were over-reacting?

When kids and water are together they need a responsible adult with them at all times.

She is not what I would class a responsible adult, so I would not trust her to be in charge of safety.

From the friendship point of view if she was a proper frined she would have come round and said sorry by now. If the friendship isn't important to her then she will take no further action.

Katie~baby

OMG how inconsiderate and dangerous of your friend! I would never chuck my own child in let alone someone elses!

I would of flipped out! But then there is situations where you dont say anything because your to shocked and then when you think back you are angry and wished you had! Hindsight is a wonderful thing!

I would not have any contact with her from now on! Who needs a friend who always puts you down?

And if by chance you do see her again chuck her in see how she likes it

sylphraven

Have you got the patience of a saint or what! I could not have stayed in that womans company if it happened to one of my children. & yes, I probably would have slapped her if she was within reach & pushed her in the pool.

If you dont want to lose her friendship & you think she'd listen try letting her know that though her children may enjoy things like that, your daughter is too young & it scared her. Also tell her that you feel she is constantly putting you down & you want it to stop. If she doesnt listen or you dont think she will then its best for your health to stop seeing her, also its not good for your daughter to be around someone she doesnt trust/scared of.

Well done for getting your daughter swimming lessons, hopefully they'll put her mind at ease.

Hugs for all 3 of you

sharnad

your friend did a stupid thing well done for not giving her a slap

you should never do that to someone elses child when you dont know how they would react

my dad chucked me in the pool fully clothed when i was 15 and i hated it. its quite scary when your not expecting to go under water

well dont for getting her to go swimming again so quickly, hopefully it wont put her off for good

Savvy_Sue

MRSMCAWBER wrote: »

Hi Savvy_sue....
if that had been my hubby, he would have come home from work the following day to find his beloved fish pond filled in, and would have been lucky he wasnt in it at the time!!

Rather the way I felt at the time! You won't be surprised to learn he's now an ex-DH ... although it was his choice not hers ... again a failure to look at the world in any way but his own!