Was I over reacting ?

jo1967

Hope you are feeling better, you did not over react - I would have been exactly the same. I agree with the others your friend is really not much of one.

Savvy_Sue

No, you weren't overreacting.

I knew a couple where the chap wanted a water feature in the garden. And a small one wouldn't do, it had to be a proper pond. His DW asked him to cordon it off so the children weren't in danger, but no, that would spoil the look of it, he wouldn't do that, it had to have paving around the edges and the children were supposed to 'know' that they mustn't go over this edging.

so what happens? One day the DW is hanging out washing, and one of the children is peddling round the garden on a trike, back wheel goes over the edge of the pond and splash! bike and child in the pond. Mum panics, gets the child out, just about manages to calm down before her DH comes home, at which point she asks him please to cordon off the pond. But no, it still can't be done as it will spoil the look of the pond. And anyway "You should have been watching them better," and "well, they won't do it again, will they?" :eek:

snowmaid

I would seriously question the frienship. One does not chuck in a 4 year old, or any child so young!

The fact that your friend was putting you down afterwards sounds as if she felt guilty at what was supposedly a fun action!

I wouldn't leave your child with her.

Slapps

erm just when are you supposed to over react?
when it's to late and the damage is non-reversable?
i feel you reacted just the same way as most loving and caring parents do and would if that happened to their kids.
glad your dc seems to have gotten over it tho xxxxx

nats3006

Shes no friend, stay away :cool:

spoilt_BUT_appreciate_it

Someone always thinks their way is better and by the sounds of things she thinks you wrap your little four year old up in cotton wool compared to how she is with her own children.

My daughter is the same as yours, you can't be all rough and tumble with her as she's not use to it and neither am I, nor are you by the sounds of it.

I can imagine my sister in-law doing the same thing and she would really believe that she's not done anything wrong BUT I'd be horrified and loss for words...

spoilt_BUT_appreciate_it

I'm really surprised that you stayed there once she came out with the 'you panic too much' comment, perhaps you do...! I know I do BUT so what anyway I certainly don't think you did in this case

I too would be concerned about your little one getting a FEAR of WATER even though she did get back in that day doesn't mean to say she's forgotton or feels entirely safe

happysinglemum

You know your children better than anyone else. The fact that your dd wouldn't go into the pool again until your 'friend' wasn't in there makes me feel that you reacted totally appropriately. Your children get used to how you deal with things, and dd could have felt insecure if you'd just shrugged it off.

You sound like a wonderful, loving Mum.

xx

blinkingbank!

DD did say she had a bad dream last night because of it, but we have talked and just her and me are going to local swimming pool this weekend.

Thanks all made me feel much better.

sarahlouise210

You did not over-react re her throwing your child in her pool ..it was irresponsible and frightening for you and your daughter. You "friend" probably does not worry as they use the pool all the time. You say your emotions are all ove the place at the moment ...I am having this too and must admit that after talking to a psychiatrist I realise that on occasions when I have thought people are putting me down or shunning me or ignoring me..it is actually my depression making me feel like that and mis-interpreting the situation or comments that under normal circumstances would not bother me..this may be the case for you. But regarding the pool incident - if anything you under-reacted ..it was very dangerous and could have given your DD a fear of water for a long time - get her back in..but not at your friends!!!