what on earth does this mean

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

dipsy wrote: »

Well I spent Sunday with him and friends, all was well, I came home on Monday afternoon, I left him the option again off walking away, he said he wanted to see me again.

I said maybe text me in the week, he said he would, but he has been on shift and I know he is likely to be in bed right now.

I have decided if the text doen't come today I am just going to make arrangements to get my stuff from his house and call a day on the last few years.

I haven't text/called him, I refuse to run after him, I go for not caring/cross and upset all in a 24 hour period.

I am resigning my self to it being dead, but god knows how I will ever meet a decent bloke.... don't want grow old (er) on my own, want someone to enjoy life with, not someone who treats me a like an afterthought...

They're out there.


I found one in the end

beckysbobbles1

Wow I could've written this myself!!!

My ex did pretty much the same. He wanted to false me into making the decision to split up. I did and although I miss him a bit, I realise what a complete waste of space he is.

It's probably the uncertainty which is worse but if you know in your heart that it won't work out, cut your losses now.

Be prepared for the drunk calls and texts though. But it never works out better second time around.

Pee

I think it can be a genuine, help I feel really lost here, cry for help. It may be depression, a mid life crisis, or in my case PMT and will pass in the next couple of hours. It may be when commitment is impending and it seems like a now or never choice, which he is taking seriously.

On the other hand if you aren't living together and the relationship isn't that serious (my assumption, which may be wrong) then I think it's time for you to both mobve on to better things. It's too soon, if I am right and you have just been dating for a while, to have to deal with issues like this.

dipsy

Pee wrote: »

I think it can be a genuine, help I feel really lost here, cry for help. It may be depression, a mid life crisis, or in my case PMT and will pass in the next couple of hours. It may be when commitment is impending and it seems like a now or never choice, which he is taking seriously.

On the other hand if you aren't living together and the relationship isn't that serious (my assumption, which may be wrong) then I think it's time for you to both mobve on to better things. It's too soon, if I am right and you have just been dating for a while, to have to deal with issues like this.

Ok to add, I had a serious accident in May, nearly died, but fully recovered now, and probably stronger that I have ever been, we don't live together, but we have been together 2 1/2 years.

He became very loving and looked after me alot after the accident


Kept telling everyone how he was scared he nearly lost me, and kept telling me he loved me.

confused is putting it mildly.......

I could text/call him and I know he would respond, but I want him to do some chasing for now, I don't want to be with someone if he wants out of it.

He has to want it, trouble is his sisters wedding is in 4 weeks and I don't want to rock any boats before now as I really want to go as I really love her......

I want to scream at him, but it is not in my nature.... but as I said I am sure he thinks everything is fine as we left it with him to text me and we were meeting up again.

So basically I don't know if we are going out at the weekend or anything.... confuse to heck...

aileth

Don't call/text him. Like you said, you don't want to chase him. If he is bothered with you, he will come to you.

Assume you aren't doing anything at the weekend as he hasn't contacted you, and if he rings you asking where you are because you were supposed to meet for the weekend, simply tell him you assumed the plans had been cancelled due to your conversations and then the lack of contact afterwards.

dipsy

well he was in touch, we went out Saturday for a meal then met up with friends, out for dinner on Sunday and then he invited me to stay Sun

great weekend lots of laughing, can't figure what it was all about....

anyway, I am more like we were when we met, I have been less intense, I won't be chasing him that is for sure

men.... and they say women are hard ..