what on earth does this mean

marisco_2

Possible mid life crisis looming. More likely this is someone who wants out of a relationship, but hasn't got the confidence to just say so honestly.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Sometimes, you can genuinely look at a person and in a split second, realise for the first time 'I don't want this anymore'. There might not be a huge reason, it might be a thousand different things, or nothing you can point to as the direct cause - it's just not there anymore'.

And sometimes that doesn't even mean considering being with anybody else, it's just that it's gone. It won't come back. But you can still feel bad about doing that to somebody and not want to hurt them.




One of my exes was absolutely adamant that I had to be sleeping with somebody else, I had to be. I wasn't. I wasn't even looking at anybody else. But I wanted out. And it got messier precisely because he kept going on about how I had to be unfaithful. Nope. I just don't want to be here anymore - and the constant hassle about how everything would be fine if I'd just be honest and stop lying really, really made me angry.

dandelionclock30

I've never ever known a man leave a relationship and then go and live by themselves because they have fallen out of love!.Ever. It may happen like lightening hitting the same place twice but it must be like 1 in a million.
They leave for 2 reasons, either, they are shagging someone elce or have been kicked out thats it.

Chlorine7

dandelionclock30 wrote: »

I've never ever known a man leave a relationship and then go and live by themselves because they have fallen out of love!.Ever. It may happen like lightening hitting the same place twice but it must be like 1 in a million.
They leave for 2 reasons, either, they are shagging someone elce or have been kicked out thats it.

Well, I have and so has a good friend of mine.

loulou26

I am currently in this position and I still don't really know what it means or the outcome to it.

We are working on things at the moment but I very much doubt it will have a positive outcome

paulineb_2

dandelionclock30 wrote: »

I've never ever known a man leave a relationship and then go and live by themselves because they have fallen out of love!.Ever. It may happen like lightening hitting the same place twice but it must be like 1 in a million.
They leave for 2 reasons, either, they are shagging someone elce or have been kicked out thats it.

Men do leave relationships, all the time, without having someone else or being kicked out.

The same as women do.

the_pink_panther_2

Agree with others, he wants out, but think he may also be slightly afraid of burning his bridges at the same time.

GoldenShadow

dandelionclock30 wrote: »

I've never ever known a man leave a relationship and then go and live by themselves because they have fallen out of love!.Ever. It may happen like lightening hitting the same place twice but it must be like 1 in a million.
They leave for 2 reasons, either, they are shagging someone elce or have been kicked out thats it.

My OH did. Split up with ex NYE and went back 'home' to Ma and Pa.

[Deleted User]

dandelionclock30 wrote: »

I've never ever known a man leave a relationship and then go and live by themselves because they have fallen out of love!.Ever. It may happen like lightening hitting the same place twice but it must be like 1 in a million.
They leave for 2 reasons, either, they are shagging someone elce or have been kicked out thats it.

My husband did, left July 2012, spent 5 months in his friend's spare room (as his wife left him, think men behaving badly), then he moved back in with his parents by December and remains there whilst he is "saving".

Whilst I was aware he had sexted someone for 4 months, that was 18 months before he left and as far as i know, which isnt conclusive there isn't anyone else. He just didn't love me anymore.

However, I do now have my suspicions, no proof, that he may be seeing someone else, but that is really none of my business anymore. Still stings though.

dandelionclock30

Well it must happen then, but I've never known it from all the people I've known.