Dreaming of my mum

pukkamum

I had the most terrible dream about my nan after she died, we had asked the nurses to remove her mask and we sat with her as she went.
In my dream she was alive and well and said thank goodness you made the nurses revive me, look how well I am!
I think our dreams help us make sense of our feelings and are often quite easily interpretated.

kassi

Sorry for your loss x My mum died just over 13 years ago and I used to dream about her a lot. In the dreams she was unaware that she was dead and this would upset me.
Recently i had a dream where I saw her on the corner waving and smiling at me, i ran to her saying 'that's my mum' and we hugged!
I swear i could feel that hug for real and it kept me smiling for days!
I'm sure the dreams will pass and be replaced with happier ones!

Xx

Goldiegirl

I think it's very normal to have dreams about a lost loved one.

My dad died in 2004, and at that time my mum's dementia was getting very bad.

I was always having dreams about them, that my dad was still alive and my mum was as she was before she had dementia. My mum died in 2008, which started off a new crop of dreams.

Some of the dreams were very random. Once I dreamt I was sailing on the Thames, and there was a tsumani, and my boat was washed from the Thames, all through the streets to my mum and dads front door, where they were waiting for me.

From time to time, I still have dreams about my parents, and they are always nice comforting dreams. The most recent was a couple of months ago. I was at my parents house, but my mum was the one who had died first and I was helping my dad clear out her things. Then my mum appeared, and I was literally suffused with joy. I woke up but that feeling of joy was still there, it was so intense.

As long as your dreams aren't frightening or disturbing you, I don't think they are anything to worry about. Just the opposite actually, I think they are a positive sign that you are going through the grieving process.

redwineguzzler

My mum died 20 years ago, and I still dream about her, but quite soon after she died I dreamt that she said it was a dream, I'm still alive, then then when I woke I was gutted that it was just a dream. My darling son also died last year, and I haven't had a dream about him, but feel devastated that I haven't... and cry most days - don't understand.... x

ognum

i am sorry to hear of your loss, I do some voluntary work with people who are bereaved and many people find great comfort from being with their loved ones again in their dreams, in fact, many people become upset when they no longer have these dreams.

it is worth being aware that they may stop and you will have to deal with that feeling too. As long as the dreams are not uncomfortable or painful to you then I would suggest you just accept them, reflect on them, maybe write them down and talk about them.

I hope you can begin to feel comfortable with them.

MrsAtobe

Nothing much else to add, but yes, I dreamed about my mother after she died. The dreams do pass, thankfully for me as I found them quite upsetting. I was only 13 when she died and in every dream she was walking away from me.

meritaten

about three months after my dad died I had horrible dreams - I dreamed my dad knocked at my mums back door and I would open the door and dad would stand there but his face was all mis-shapen and he was wearing my aunts wig. I would say, youre dead and shut the door. (aunt was ill at the time).
It was really upsetting me until a member of my Spiritualist church told me to control the dream. invite dad in and just treat him as if he was still here. I did this, and me and dad had a great chat over a cuppa (to this day I cannot remember what we talked about), but I woke up feeling that things had changed. I haven't had the dream since. I suggest that next time you dream about mum you ask her how she is, make her a cuppa and just chat.

red_devil

im interested as to whether the rest of my family have so i shall ask them>

cloudy-day

Sorry for you loss.

My Mum died almost 2 years ago. In the first month I had terrible, draining nightmares that she was lost in the hospital where she died and begging me to get her out. I woke up crying and felt awful all day because it was just so real.

Last week she appeared in a nice dream (can't remember what about), and I was so happy that she was there. Woke up with a good feeling because I'd chatted to her, although it was just a dream.

Things do get better so be strong.

x

Rev

Sorry for your loss.

I lost my mum in December. And since them I've had continued nightmares. Always the same. I find her and she's alive but I know she should be dead and so does she and I have to watch her die all over again. Or we're in a situation were I'm trying to save her (from being shot etc) and I can't. But always the same end result.

I think it's a normal part of the grieving process.