Need some advice......

bruciebounus

I think it is a coping mechanism. Personally I am in a similar situation at the moment. I have been going through some personal trauma and haven't got the energy to do anything but deal with that and get myself to work everyday. Selfish I know, but the only way I have been able to get by.

I have cut some contact with friends I would usually chat to, as it feels like my brain is overloaded and even having a light hearted conversation takes a lot of effort. Maybe she is going through something similar? I know its not fair on you but she must have her reasons, especially if you've not had a falling out.

Brighton_belle

Dunroamin wrote: »

Or, you could be really radical and write her a letter where you can ensure that you're really saying what you mean.

I think it takes a lot of skill to ensure that what you write in a letter comes across the way you mean it.

System

When ive got personal stuff going round in my head I tend to retreat.

I retreat because I don't want to talk about it as well as think about it. If I am retreat mode I find it too easy to let the negativity I am feeling inside come out in what I say.

I'd wait for your friend to contact you now. She's made it plain she wants space so give it to her.

ladyelegance77

bruciebounus wrote: »

I think it is a coping mechanism. Personally I am in a similar situation at the moment. I have been going through some personal trauma and haven't got the energy to do anything but deal with that and get myself to work everyday. Selfish I know, but the only way I have been able to get by.

I have cut some contact with friends I would usually chat to, as it feels like my brain is overloaded and even having a light hearted conversation takes a lot of effort. Maybe she is going through something similar? I know its not fair on you but she must have her reasons, especially if you've not had a falling out.

I honestly hope whatever you are going through improves....and I am just gonna leave her be and respect her space.

ladyelegance77

Judi wrote: »

When ive got personal stuff going round in my head I tend to retreat.

I retreat because I don't want to talk about it as well as think about it. If I am retreat mode I find it too easy to let the negativity I am feeling inside come out in what I say.

I'd wait for your friend to contact you now. She's made it plain she wants space so give it to her.

I guess thats where in different....I tell my closest friends whats going on if they want to listen. And I will wait for her to contact me.....thanks xx

Dunroamin

Brighton_belle wrote: »

I think it takes a lot of skill to ensure that what you write in a letter comes across the way you mean it.

Easier to do than in a text though.