male child minder...would you use??

Valli

Anyway OP, yes I would. For single parents who are female you would be a VERY positive role model. For the (few) doubters they may be interested to know that ALL adults in a childminder's home have to have a CRB check!

Kayalana99

scousedave wrote: »

Putting this thread on here as need some feedback from families and not sure which forum to place it under.

Hello I need some advice and would appreciate any feedback from yourselves......
I'm a single dad and have been looking for work but always seem to hit a brick wall when job searching....and this is that childminders don't do the hours that I would require in order to go to work as I come from an industrial background.

This set me thinking that the most obvious choice is that it would be good to train as a childminder with the intention of going self employed and I could then be a stay at home dad and work as a childminder.
So many people say how good I am with children and I know myself enough that I would enjoy working with children given the correct training.
I was wondering your thoughts on a Male childminder....would you steer away from putting your children with a male chldminder or would it not bother you in the slightest?
Thank you in advance

On a more postive note, I was looking for a childminder on childcare.co.uk a while back and was actally quite suprized at the amount of Male child minders... its not an abnormal thing.

I would say do your research (perhaps even look at that site) as you will find alot of child minders have alot of prevouis experience, loads of space for the kids to play in the house(not to mention most of thier houses are basicly toys/actitivies that makes even the adults want to stay and play)

Its alot of competition and most rely heavily on recommdation but if your willing to put the time and work in it can really pay off.

harrys_nan

Kayalana99 wrote: »

Got to be honest... wouldn't use a male child minder with a female child.

You must be aware that women can abuse as well and not only boys but girls too, sad as this is it's a fact!

I had a male friend look after my kids when they were younger (both sexes) not only was he male but shock horror he was also gay. My workmates, at least the older ones, was shocked but he was gay and NOT a child molester, my kids were quiet safe with him, so yes if I had young kids I woul d leave them with a male, providing he was registered and the checks done.

Kayalana99

ViolaLass wrote: »

This specifically suggests that you plan not to leave your child with any men, whether they are family members or not. If that isn't what you meant, perhaps you could clarify? Where do you draw the line between family members and potential abusers?

As per both questions,

I was saying you have to draw the line as in I meant I couldn't be stupid about it and i.e not even leave her Dad with her on his own...I trust my Grandad and my Dad etc with my child(not that I have a DD but I would) but at same time it can still happen..

As for if my DS would be safer with a male abuser? ofc he wouldn't be.. but a woman is probally no safer then a man in this aspect as even if its not sexual abuse it can still be phyiscal so obvouisly thier is always risk invovled in leaving a child with someone you don't really know but same time I just personally feel if I had a DD I would be more protective and just couldn't take that chance.

I can't really explain it any better, sorry. You read about this stuff in paper and think its just one case...never happen to your children but when it hits closer to home and then its to late.

Just couldn't do it personally.

Valli

Kayalana99 wrote: »

As per both questions,

I was saying you have to draw the line as in I meant I couldn't be stupid about it and i.e not even leave her Dad with her on his own...I trust my Grandad and my Dad etc with my child(not that I have a DD but I would) but at same time it can still happen..

As for if my DS would be safer with a male abuser? ofc he wouldn't be.. but a woman is probally no safer then a man in this aspect as even if its not sexual abuse it can still be phyiscal so obvouisly thier is always risk invovled in leaving a child with someone you don't really know but same time I just personally feel if I had a DD I would be more protective and just couldn't take that chance.

I can't really explain it any better, sorry. You read about this stuff in paper and think its just one case...never happen to your children but when it hits closer to home and then its to late.

Just couldn't do it personally.

You may be interested to know that the majority of abuse occurs within the family circle, unfortunately.

ohreally

O/p, i'd say consider it but be prepared for some very judgmental individuals.

I regularly hear comments from people who are in jobs which require a non-judgmental outlook, they just can't help themselfs.

RichardD1970

Kayalana99 wrote: »

As per both questions,

I was saying you have to draw the line as in I meant I couldn't be stupid about it and i.e not even leave her Dad with her on his own...I trust my Grandad and my Dad etc with my child(not that I have a DD but I would) but at same time it can still happen..

As for if my DS would be safer with a male abuser? ofc he wouldn't be.. but a woman is probally no safer then a man in this aspect as even if its not sexual abuse it can still be phyiscal so obvouisly thier is always risk invovled in leaving a child with someone you don't really know but same time I just personally feel if I had a DD I would be more protective and just couldn't take that chance.

I can't really explain it any better, sorry. You read about this stuff in paper and think its just one case...never happen to your children but when it hits closer to home and then its to late.

Just couldn't do it personally.

Sorry, but most abuse is by family members/close family friends.

Kayalana99

Valli wrote: »

You may be interested to know that the majority of abuse occurs within the family circle, unfortunately.

Which is kind of my point...but same time you can't wrap a child in cotton wool over every little detail of what might happen.

But given the choice between a female or male child minder I would simply just choose female...why take an extra risk that isn't needed? I guess thats all I meant by it.... and I suppose with whats happening with the eariler thing I mentioned being so recent I am bound to be in my corner about this...

ViolaLass

Kayalana99 wrote: »

Which is kind of my point...but same time you can't wrap a child in cotton wool over every little detail of what might happen.

But given the choice between a female or male child minder I would simply just choose female...why take an extra risk that isn't needed? I guess thats all I meant by it.... and I suppose with whats happening with the eariler thing I mentioned being so recent I am bound to be in my corner about this...

I think as long as you recognise that you're being irrational, then it's your choice.

notanewuser

Kayalana99 wrote: »

Which is kind of my point...but same time you can't wrap a child in cotton wool over every little detail of what might happen.

But given the choice between a female or male child minder I would simply just choose female...why take an extra risk that isn't needed? I guess thats all I meant by it.... and I suppose with whats happening with the eariler thing I mentioned being so recent I am bound to be in my corner about this...

Where is the extra risk? Vanessa George wasn't male.