male child minder...would you use??

WantToBeSE

Yes i would use a Male Childminder (if mine were younger, they are too old to need childminders now).
I am a single parent, and both of my children are boys. although they have a great relationship with their Dad, and see him often, it couldn't hurt to have another positive role model for them

RichardD1970

Kayalana99 wrote: »

Got to be honest... wouldn't use a male child minder with a female child.

Why not? :mad:

notanewuser

Kayalana99 wrote: »

Got to be honest... wouldn't use a male child minder with a female child.

Why ever not?!

ViolaLass

Kayalana99 wrote: »

Got to be honest... wouldn't use a male child minder with a female child.

Would you have a female childminder with a male child?

pukkamum

Kayalana99 wrote: »

Got to be honest... wouldn't use a male child minder with a female child.

Why on earth not, it is because a male childminder would definitely be an abuser? Never heard anything so ludicrous in all my life.
In dd's school the reception teacher is male, I expect you wouldn't allow your female child to be taught by him.
It is people like you that perpetuate the myth that every man is a potential abuser and that abusers are on every street corner.
Would you allow your female child to be with dad, grandad, uncle etc alone?

Kayalana99

pukkamum wrote: »

Why on earth not, it is because a male childminder would definitely be an abuser? Never heard anything so ludicrous in all my life.
In dd's school the reception teacher is male, I expect you wouldn't allow your female child to be taught by him.
It is people like you that perpetuate the myth that every man is a potential abuser and that abusers are on every street corner.
Would you allow your female child to be with dad, grandad, uncle etc alone?

No, but on that 0.00001% chance that he was, I would have to live with the fact that I put my child with this person + she would have to live with what happened ofc.

I could just never take that risk how ever small.

And as much as I have to admit to the bolded text, you have to draw the line with who you trust, but a family members friend is going though the process of JUST this because someone close in her family has abused her 4 year old.... it makes me sick to my stomach what is going on but the fact is because of the chance that it COULD happen I just couldn't bare to be the person responsible for leaving my child with this person.

notanewuser

Kayalana99 wrote: »

No, but on that 0.00001% chance that he was, I would have to live with the fact that I put my child with this person + she would have to live with what happened ofc.

I could just never take that risk how ever small.

And as much as I have to admit to the bolded text, you have to draw the line with who you trust, but a family members friend is going though the process of JUST this because someone close in her family has abused her 4 year old.... it makes me sick to my stomach what is going on but the fact is because of the chance that it COULD happen I just couldn't bare to be the person responsible for leaving my child with this person.

So you won't ever leave your children with anybody else?

How on earth are you going to achieve that?

Kayalana99

notanewuser wrote: »

So you won't ever leave your children with anybody else?

How on earth are you going to achieve that?

Hello AGAIN, you seem to follow me round and mis read what I put.... as per usal.

I never said that at all....so this is a question is irrelevant. Re read what I said and see if you can come back with something better to start an arguement with as your so good at doing.

(Sorry if my spelling isn't up to your standard...)

ViolaLass

Kayalana99 wrote: »

No, but on that 0.00001% chance that he was, I would have to live with the fact that I put my child with this person + she would have to live with what happened ofc.

I could just never take that risk how ever small.

And as much as I have to admit to the bolded text, you have to draw the line with who you trust, but a family members friend is going though the process of JUST this because someone close in her family has abused her 4 year old.... it makes me sick to my stomach what is going on but the fact is because of the chance that it COULD happen I just couldn't bare to be the person responsible for leaving my child with this person.

This specifically suggests that you plan not to leave your child with any men, whether they are family members or not. If that isn't what you meant, perhaps you could clarify? Where do you draw the line between family members and potential abusers?

Valli

Kayalana99 wrote: »

No, but on that 0.00001% chance that he was, I would have to live with the fact that I put my child with this person + she would have to live with what happened ofc.

I could just never take that risk how ever small.

And as much as I have to admit to the bolded text, you have to draw the line with who you trust, but a family members friend is going though the process of JUST this because someone close in her family has abused her 4 year old.... it makes me sick to my stomach what is going on but the fact is because of the chance that it COULD happen I just couldn't bare to be the person responsible for leaving my child with this person.

Do you think, IF the adult were an abuser a male child would be any safer with him?