Am I over-reacting.

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gt568 wrote: »

I don't wish to drag this OT but I'm struggling to see the link between mocking/quoting her posts and gaslighting....? Care to enlighten me?

I don't see the relevance either!

diable

Milly-Molly-Mandy wrote: »

it is a new thing he did recently

when i asked him to stop he told me
every thing is in the public domain but it is the sly way he did it

he tells me i am over sensitive if i get upset

when other people around he is polite and caring to me he is very sarky when we are alone

Spanish Archer time and move on.........

BitterAndTwisted

"Blathering" personal details when you are posting using an alias is unlikely to reveal to anyone, other than a spy, who we really are if we are careful not to name names and give specific information about our whereabouts. Absolutely not the same thing as someone we know in real life reading and quoting stuff back to us in an insulting way. Anyone who can't spot the difference is a moron and shouldn't be let lose on the computer without a responsible adult at their side.

As to "gaslighting" I think it's fairly obvious that a number of posters see this twit's behaviour towards his partner as the thin end of the wedge. Tracking their internet usage when they leave their computer for a minute or two is a gross abuse of trust and it's not difficult to imagine that this sort of behavoiur could be stepped up. As it often is. Forewarned is forearmed and all that.

I still think the OP's OH is a creep and his behaviour towards her is insulting, at best.

candygirl

He sounds like a psychopath to me!!I only know this from past horrific experience Take care hun x

Milly-Molly-Mandy_2

gt568 wrote: »

So from the other side of the coin, why doesn't he trust you? Has he a reason not to trust you? We're only getting one side of a very one sided story thus far.....

No reason whatsoever.

Milly-Molly-Mandy_2

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

True, but the OP doesn't mention anything about her partner going through her phone or her emails etc, or infact anything other than her posts on here. Of course, there could be reason why the OP's OH feels he has to check up on her, but I really don't think that this is the case here.

It comes across to me, that the OP's boyfriend, by quoting her posts back in a mocking voice, is trying to make her feel stupid, feel small, and making her feel like she is doing something wrong. He is gradually undermining her confidence, to me it seems like a control thing....:(

thank you that is how i am seeing it too

Milly-Molly-Mandy_2

gt568 wrote: »

So if he's only taking the mickey out of her posts on here maybe its meant as a bit of fun? If he was a proper mental he'd be snooping everywhere. More to this story than we are being told I fear.

no more to it sorry

it is only fun if all people involved find it funny and i dont like it and have asked him to stop it is sly

Milly-Molly-Mandy_2

thank you to everyone for your opinions it has helped me lots

Goldiegirl

I've been looking at this thread over the last few days.

It's certainly not a nice thing to do, to quote back things you've posted, in an insulting way. If he wasn't doing it as a joke, I'd be upset about it.

But apart from that, I was thinking about him reading what you've posted

I don't know if you are on Facebook, but if you are, most people want people they know in real life to read their Facebook page.

Is it because on a forum, we are anonymous, as we use an alias to post under, and therefore what we post here is just for 'Internet people' and not 'real life' people.

I've started to post a few review on Tripadvisor, and I mentioned to my husband the name I was using there, and what I'd done a review on.

The next day he emailed from work to say he liked my review.

Although he was being complimentary, I still felt a bit put out that he looked!

mrcow

Goldiegirl wrote: »

I've started to post a few review on Tripadvisor, and I mentioned to my husband the name I was using there, and what I'd done a review on.

The next day he emailed from work to say he liked my review.

Although he was being complimentary, I still felt a bit put out that he looked!

Was it somewhere that you'd been to together? If so, I think it's completely understandable for him to be a little nosey. Perhaps ever, he took you mentioning it as an invitation to read it and comment?

If a week later, he follows your user name and is still reading trip advisor stuff, then it's a little annoying.

My partner knows my log in. I don't know if he reads my stuff or not - probably not because he'd be bored stupid. I deliberately don't post much personal information about myself on any particular post, but over the years there has been quite a lot about me, him and my family. If he started to quote it back to me, he'd be told to get himself a life of his his own. It's creepy stalker behaviour and needs to stop!