Am I over-reacting.

Milly-Molly-Mandy_2

going to log off now need to do some things

thank you for your thoughts

will be back later

System

Have to admit to once being nosy and looking up bf's post on a forum (he'd been on it loads when he was here)...lost interest after about 2 posts as it was all just game related things. I think if he searched for me he'd be reading mundane postings for years as i've been a pretty prolific poster across some forums for years. All that said i wouldn't do it and then use what i'd seen to bring him down. If hes purposely seeking thigs out to use against you then that doesn't sound good..

Macca83_2

Messedup your profile picture looks like a ferret in a space suit. Lol do I need my eyes tested?

Mojisola

Milly-Molly-Mandy wrote: »

he tells me i am over sensitive if i get upset

when other people around he is polite and caring to me he is very sarky when we are alone

This is only to going to get worse!

If you stay, he will undermine your confidence until you start believing what he tells you and all of your friends and family will think he's lovely so it will be hard to share how you feel.

System

Macca83 wrote: »

Messedup your profile picture looks like a ferret in a space suit. Lol do I need my eyes tested?

It's a sloth....it's a space sloth

(sorry OP)

Macca83_2

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

It's a sloth....it's a space sloth

(sorry OP)

Yeah sorry too. Didn't mean to hi-Jack but I just had to ask! Save me squinting at my mobile

Haha that's awesome.

marisco_2

Everything you write on this forum or any other is in the public domain. Your boyfriend is the only person though who is observing you really closely, then using what you have written against you. He is not reading your thoughts, taking on board your opinions and then using what he discovers in a positive way at all.

For reasons only he can explain he quotes you in an intimidating manner and undermines you. When you quite rightly get upset about this he turns the tables on you and tells you that you are over sensitive. He only does this when you are alone. Yet when you are in the company of others he puts on a totally different persona and is polite and caring toward you.

We only have one side of the story here, but from what you have told us he is coming across as an unpleasant individual who shows little regard for your feelings, and who is at best happily playing mind games with you. At worst I think you need to consider that you live with a controlling man who has an abusive personality.

JanCee

You should have posted this under your original user name. Maybe some of the responses would have made him think twice before searching for your posts.

mishmogs

I think he is creepy and not someone I would want to be around for long. I don't like the sound of him being 'sarky' he sounds immature and insecure and not a very nice character. Your decision but please think long and hard about your future and if there is any hint of him stepping up his control over you, run a mile...

ERICS_MUM

Perhaps I'm being too dramatic but from what you've described, please take care.

Has he started losing his temper - with you or things/people in general ? Has he ever hit you or raised his hand, stepped too close to you in a threatening way ? Is he spiteful, disrespects your personal possessions, how is he with your friends/family ?

As I say, I might be over-reacting, but from personal experience I know that the sort of behaviour you describe could develop into something worse.

Linda xx