Am I over-reacting.

Milly-Molly-Mandy_2

New ID as my boyfriend knows my usual ID and has begun searching my posts out and quoting them back to me in conversation.

I do not have any thing to hide and my posts are inoffensive but this is now really getting on my nerves.

I do not want to stop posting on MSE or any forum but it feels like I am being stalked in my own house.

I have asked him not to deliberately search me out but he said he is doing nothing wrong. I find it intrusive and that he is checking up on me. Am I over-reacting.

System

Be sure to clear your cache / browsing data when you're finished, or he might be able to find you again!

Kayalana99

On one hand, I wouldn't mind my OH reading my posts (although he is mentioned in a few hehe)... but when you say he is 'quoting them back to you' is this in a bad way?

I.e Using them against you?

I think you'll find most people will agree with you though as a breech in privacy but me and OH have a really open relationship and we are both as nosy as each other and I don't really feel need to have anything private from him tbh. Thats just us though as a recent thread about phone checking/facebook checking showed most disagree.. lol :-)

Mojisola

Milly-Molly-Mandy wrote: »

I have asked him not to deliberately search me out but he said he is doing nothing wrong. I find it intrusive and that he is checking up on me. Am I over-reacting.

No, it's weird and disrespectful.

If you asked him not to do it and he still does, he doesn't care much for how you feel.

Is he the jealous type or controlling in other ways?

Turtle

No I don't think you're over reacting. It's weird and I'd be really annoyed if my husband did this. I don't have anything to hide either, but I don't see why he'd need to be checking up on my every thought or opinion!

Georgiegirl256

Definitely not over reacting. It's weird! Why does he feel the need to do this? Is he mocking you in someway?

Macca83_2

I dunno I think I'd be quite interested to know if my other half was posting things about me in an internet forum.

The only thing I'd point out is, you are posting on a public forum where anyone can see. Why is it intrusive when you're putting your views out on a format that anyone can read?

BitterAndTwisted

No, you are not over-reacting. I think his behaviour is weird and creepy. That he doesn't see anything wrong with it tells you all you need to know about his lack of respect for you and your privacy.

Milly-Molly-Mandy_2

Kayalana99 wrote: »

On one hand, I wouldn't mind my OH reading my posts (although he is mentioned in a few hehe)... but when you say he is 'quoting them back to you' is this in a bad way?

I.e Using them against you?

Yes he puts on this high pitched sarky tone and quotes things I posted

bagpussbear

You are not over-reacting, everyone is entitled to privacy.

The fact you have told him that you don't like it, and he says it's not wrong, is disrespectful of your space and right to say something makes you feel uncomfortable. He doesn't seem to be listening.

Is he doing anything else that makes you feel stalked/uncomfortable, or just this MSE forum stuff?

Kayalana99

Milly-Molly-Mandy wrote: »

Yes he puts on this high pitched sarky tone and quotes things I posted

In that case I don't think your going to find one person that disagrees with you.....