Am I over-reacting.

BitterAndTwisted

Milly-Molly-Mandy wrote: »

he does it to make a point i think but i do not know why

The point he is making very clearly is that you under his observation, no matter what you do or where you go on the comp.

Clear your browsing-history and log-off every time you leave the computer.

I daresay once you start doing that he'll try and find other ways to intrude.

He's creepy

valk_scot

It's a public forum, you do have to bear in mind that anything you post here (and many other places) can be read by your OH, your mum, your boss, your kids....

On the other hand your OH using them against you is downright worrying. Does he often make fun of you like this? Does he think it's funny and that you "just can't take a joke" or is there an undercurrent of unpleasant mockery in his tone? What does he actually say when you tell him how unpleasant you find his behaviour and ask him to stop?

Mojisola

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

So, he's spying on your browsing-history as well? That's completely and utterly creepy and controlling.

Oh, wouldn't it be tempting to give him something "interesting" to look at! Before dumping him, that is.

C_Mababejive

Dont rise to the bait. Tell him if he is so keen on reading MSE, he should get his own account and join in. It sounds like a form of bullying to me.

Macca83_2

Mojisola wrote: »

Oh, wouldn't it be tempting to give him something "interesting" to look at! Before dumping him, that is.

Haha how about a blow up boyfriend?

Milly-Molly-Mandy_2

it is a new thing he did recently

when i asked him to stop he told me
every thing is in the public domain but it is the sly way he did it

he tells me i am over sensitive if i get upset

when other people around he is polite and caring to me he is very sarky when we are alone

Frith

Milly-Molly-Mandy wrote: »

he did this when we first started going out long time ago but he stopped then when i told him it was not nice

it is silly if i am in the den and go upstairs he will come and look where i have gone

This is the bit ringing alarm bells for me.

BitterAndTwisted

Everything is in the public domain, that is true but we adopt user-names for a reason and he's abusing that. He's also abusing your trust by spying on your browsing history and that is not normal in any way, shape or form. I wouldn't bloody stand for it as I would see it a symptom of something else. Something else rather sinister.

Macca83_2

Milly-Molly-Mandy wrote: »

it is a new thing he did recently

when i asked him to stop he told me
every thing is in the public domain but it is the sly way he did it

he tells me i am over sensitive if i get upset

when other people around he is polite and caring to me he is very sarky when we are alone

Ooft. Get rid.

Little things like this may seem insignificant but if they go on for long enough it can really destroy your confidence and emotional well being.

No body deserves a partner that brings them down. He sounds like he could be quite insecure.

building_with_lego

Milly-Molly-Mandy wrote: »

it is a new thing he did recently

when i asked him to stop he told me
every thing is in the public domain but it is the sly way he did it

he tells me i am over sensitive if i get upset

when other people around he is polite and caring to me he is very sarky when we are alone

And this rings huge alarm bells for me