Real-life MMD: If I'm paying rent, why should I tidy my room?

lollipopsarah

Well as a parent of a nearly 30 year old still at home, I know his room is in a bit of a mess but then it's his room/mess who am I to interfere - it's not as if the rest of our flat is a showroom.
I gave up worrying about it years ago when they shut the door and got on with it - mind you it was a bit awkward when we sold our last house but tbh when we showed people around I just explained that we had teenagers (twilight zone) and most understood that.
xx

gloriouslyhappy

Maybe it's a strain for them having you back in the house, and grouching about the mess in your room, paid for or otherwise, is just one of the ways your dad is showing it. Time to talk to your dad about the situation, maybe over a coffee in a cafe, not in the house, and find out what his real issues are. It could be that he resents all the extra work your presence creates for him and your mum (laundry, lifts, constant third party around wanting meals etc), and takes away his empty-nest relaxing time alone with his wife that they looked forward to 'when the children are grown up"?

Then if it does turn out to be just that you're messy, I think it's either tidy up or time to move out for good. They'll always be your parents but you can live anywhere, so why cause unnecessary hassles which can be easily avoided for the sake of saving a few pounds on rent?

pennypinchUK

This is a joke, right? Someone at MSE is trying to wind us up, surely. This can't possibly be a real dilemma - it's too ludicrous!

You're in your parent's house, so you abide by their rules. And grow up. Or move out, and learn life isn't all about yourself.

duchy

MSE are obviously doing summer work experience <sigh>

Choice one pay the subidized "rent" your parents are charging and respect their home and their "rules"

Choice two Move out and pay that rent (and more) elsewhere. Doesn't mean there won't be rules there too though .

Moving back home does not equate with returning to childhood .

Valli

You are paying to rent the room. You're not paying for maid service.

I assume you're doing all your own laundry, cooking and shopping too?

Craftyblue

I do agree that your parents should respect your privacy since your paying rent, but at the same time you should use the time you're living at home to get ready for when you move out on your own. Take a bit of pride in your room, believe me, life's a lot easier when you keep things tidy.

mikki6416

I think you should tidy your room. It puts you in good practice for when you get your own place.

I agree with your parents wanting you to keep your room tidy. If it really is a tip as they say....
-the furniture and your items are less likely to get damaged if everything is kept in place (I'm thinking stuff piled in corners, trip hazards, etc);
- If you have a regular sort out, your bedding and any clothes piles will not attract moths/spiders, dust and mould spores;
- your room won't smell from any used mugs/glasses/plates left in your room (if it does smell, the scent may be drifting through the house?); and
- you'll be able to invite your friends/girlfriend/boyfriend round without having to be embarrassed about what they think of your room.

Of course you may find it hard to keep everything in place if you have too much stuff. If that's the case, think MSE and flog what you don't need )

Taxanddeath

Suggest you grow up. You admit you are living cheaper than you could otherwise and probably not realising what else you are not paying for.

You are paying rent, that may give you rights it also gives you obligations. The rights are for peaceful enjoyment, the obligations are to comply with the terms of the lease.

I suspect you may have the age of an adult but the petulance of a teenager.

maycowan

My 31 year old son was living in my house until recently. I very rarely went into his room and just left him to it. I must admit though that if I was having a blitz on the house in general I would go and clean his room too.

Kapoww

I live at home with my parents and regardless of me paying rent if I refused to keep my room in a reasonable state my parents would quite simply tell me to like it or lump it.